my partner of 6 years moved out friday without any warning telling me that he wants to be single and have his space etc but that he still wants to visit the kids.he came round today for our childs birthday and didnt really do that much (not that he did when he was here).he text a woman loads and sais that she's just a friend (who happens to be single with 3 kids!!) he cuddled me when i was upset and then got annoyed when i text him after he's left about whether he wants abit of space and sorting himself out time with a job etc and if he wants us to not see anyone else and try after a while to sort out any rpoblems that we had and work through things to get us back together at some point as a family.he basically responded tellig me to stop hassling him about the subject.we've had our ups and downs and he's got his bad points, mainly that his hobby means he's not here 4 nights a week! but i do love him and we've had alot of good memories together and we've got two gorgeous kids together.surely that's worth trying to save?
he wants me to sort out when he can come and see the kids obviously he wont come on his hobby night! i dont knwo how many times a week is the norm as he'll be visiting in the house that i live in and i dont want him sitting rond all day dossing about as such and then just leaing again when it gets to the evening like he did when he lived here.is it too unreasonable to say during the holidays, two afternoons a week and the evening that his parents visit? that way i can take them places and arrange things without him turning up etc.want the evenings on my own really after kids in bed so i can get some time alone to think and relax.weekends are out due to his hobby really and the fact that most weekends this month ive already arranged to take the boys places whih he wont be joining us on now.
anyone got any thoughts? i want to keep things ok between us as he'll be coming round to see the boys and i dont want him trying to take them out alone instead.
if he does get together with this woman he's texting what should i do? i'll be devastated if it's so soon.i think it's be obvious that she's part of the breakup.he only met her a cople of weeks ago through a friend and he hasnt mentioned her until today when i moaned that all he was doing was txting in his sons birthday.does anyone think it might help him come to his senses ad realise what he's lost and want us back and sort things so that he can come back?
any thoughts?
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mumandlovingit · 06/08/2006 21:44
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