single mummy, want more children . anyone relate to this?

(8 Posts)
mamatomoomin Tue 11-Feb-14 23:13:05

I've been a single parent for over 2 years and have a beautiful nearly 3 year old daughter. I feel so blessed to have her and she really does make life complete, no matter how hard it can be at times. However, before I became single I had sort of planned to have had another child by now and have been thinking about this quite a bit recently. At the moment there is no sign of a bloke in my life so having more kids with someone isn't really an option. coming from a big family I know how much my daughter would love to have a sibling but I'm sad that this may never happen, or that if it does she will be too old to have anything in common with the younger child. I've wondered about adoption or even sperm donation! Has anyone else felt the same way?

Love x

Foxy800 Wed 12-Feb-14 07:39:51

I havent gone as far as thinking of sperm donation or adoption but I would love another child but I feel time is running out, I am 36 yrs old this year and a single mum to a nearly 8 yr old.I have been single for 2 and a half years and like you there is no sign of a bloke on the horizon. I rarely go out too so unlikely to meet one.

I guess I am posting this to let you know you are not alone.x

justtoomessy Wed 12-Feb-14 08:34:58

I feel sorry for my son as I he is very sociable and would love a sibling I think however, I wouldn't. I struggle enough with just one child, working full-time in shifts and no real help from my ex.

I do have a friend however, that is going down the sperm donor route as she desperately wants a child and I have a work colleague who has a daughter by a sperm donor. Its expensive though.

I just think that I can offer my son more in terms of holidays etc and there isn't much more of me to give and I am shattered. One is fine for me plus my DS is full on I'd be in mental hospital if I had another like him grin

pod3030 Thu 13-Feb-14 19:52:49

Yes.

I have 1 dd age 2 with exp and really want her to have a sibling.

I have gone so far as the tests/appointments at the fertility clinic, looking on pride angel etc. I feel serious about it, i'm 41 and don't have the luxury of finding a relationship and letting it develop. I'm giving myself a couple of months to sort out my housing.
Also a couple of old platonic friends have offered to donate so I feel I have options.
Part of me worries that this would block any chance of a loving relationship but then another part feels if I meet someone, and they're right, they will accept me as i am, two children and all.

What i'm saying is, there's no harm in looking at your options.

PsychoCynic Fri 14-Feb-14 17:52:36

YY OP! Divorced five years, one DD of 7, I ache for another child, but have no interest in relationships.

Now that I've just dipped my toe into the 40's pool, I've given up and have chosen a career which is child orientated.

sparkleshine Sat 15-Feb-14 19:54:54

This is exactly how I feel. My DS is 4 and I have been single since he was 13 mths. Dated a little but nothing long term. My Ex has re married and she has a 7 yr daughter so feel they are a family already.
I feel broody but in some way I feel grateful to have my DS. He socialises at nursery and has his step sister and my niece and we go to play centres.
I work part time, am 32 and no man in sight so far. Have also considered adoption if no prospects by late 30's but then feel my son will be too old to want to play so feel maybe an older child would be nice.
It's hard when my DS is alone playing upstairs and he says "mummy can you play with me" as he has no one else.

tinatiabluE123 Mon 24-Feb-14 07:21:53

I wouldn't put any more strain on ur relationship ....soon be at school and make friends then you can get on with what you want and have more chance of finding someone x

NoToast Sun 02-Mar-14 23:26:48

Yes, I relate to this. I am 40 this year and single with a nearly 3 yo dd. I know realistically the door to another is closing. If I was richer and/or much younger I think I would seriously consider a donor.

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