ok long story but separated from ex when ds was few months old cos I found out he ws secretly taking class a drugs!! Fast forward a while and he ws supposed to have cleaned up his act and assured me and everyone else that it was a one off and he wouldn't do it again. Gave him one chance to prove himself, First time he had ds overnight, I went to collect him nxt morning and found him in a state and found things in ex's house that suggested he ws still on drugs. when i confronted him he locked himself in a room and refused to give ds bk and I had to call police to get my child bk!!! ..( shortened version)
Since then I have refused contact unless it was supervised for these reasons and ex basically told me to F off and said he would rather have no contact at all. Again long story but it's been over 8 months since then and he hasn't seen ds or asked after him but kept harassing me cos he ws obviously upset that I didn't want him anymore but nothin to do with ds. Apparently he "heard" I had a new partner( I don't) and for the last 8 months has been threatening to take me to court for contact (even though I always offered him contact) ...he ws only sayin it to get at me cos I ws ignorin his advances, not cos he wants to see ds.
Anyway it's finally gone to court and referred to cafcass. Judge asked for a section 7 report from them cos of welfare and drug issues and he ws ordered to do a hair strand test. Contact of any kind was denied in the interim. Just had a meeting with cafcass and they are suggesting supervised contact in a centre, providing he passes a drugs test but ex has failed to do the drugs test even though it has been over 5 weeks since the deadline he ws given to do it.
Personally I think ex is putting off test so drugs can leave his system but I'm annoyed because cafcass don't seem to be chasin him up to find out why he hasn't done it! She said if he doesn't do it by the time she files her report (in another 4 weeks) she will not recommend any contact.
My question is why are they being so lenient and givin all this time to manipulate the results? If he does it before cafcass report is due they will say no more about it and allow supervised contact as proposed but why is he being allowed to blatantly ignore deadlines ordered by the court?? Isn't there consequences for not complying with an order without good reason?
Surely if it has been court ordered for him to do it by a certain date and he still a hasn't 5 weeks later, thats pretty clear that hes either still on drugs and is tryin to delay or he is just not that bothered in persuing contact....
my question is can they just stop the case now because he hasnt complied and/or will they treat him not doing the test as a false positive?
Sorry if I rambled on and this doesn't make much sense but any advice would be appreciated !!!
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HankEpankie · 14/11/2013 21:35
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