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kelly21 · 08/11/2013 16:59

cant get my head round i am going to be 23i year old single mum of 2 children by 2 different people :( i never wanted that it also hurts that i will probably never have any more kids because i dont want to be that type of person i cant get rid of these feelings i am dreading the birth of my baby in 10 weeks i dont want to do it alone

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KingRollo · 08/11/2013 21:07

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kelly21 · 08/11/2013 21:34

luckily i have lots of family support my ex became violent and has now dissaperd i have had no contact with him for nearly 7 weeks i am just terrified of the way am feeling turning into pnd and ruining what should be such a happy time

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KingRollo · 08/11/2013 21:42

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kelly21 · 09/11/2013 09:32

i am on the list but its long it could be months before i get an appointment :(

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Shellywelly1973 · 09/11/2013 09:57

Hi Op.

I just wanted to share my experience with you as I could have written your post 22 years ago...

My ds is now 24 & my dd is 21.

I ended up a single parent at 18, ds was was 2.5 when dd was born. Both of the dc dads were absolutely useless & not involved in any way.

I suffered terrible PND after dd birth but it was 1992. No one cared. Hcps looked down on me. Please ask for help after your baby is born...if you get it- there are lots of ways to treat it.

I decided at 18 I would never have anymore dc but I wasn't sad about thst decision. I considered everything to do with dc as negative. My family made me feel like crap. They weren't particularly helpful & most certainly not supportive! At least you've got a good family.

Anyway... I got a job, worked v.hard. im talking 80 hours a week. Then went to Uni. Did a law degree. 9 years later I met my now dp.

I had met a few blokes but never anyone serious & my dc never met anyone until my dp. Im now pregnant with dc6! So my dc are 24, 21, 11, 8 & 5. The baby is due in Jan. Im very successful work wise but my dc are my greatest achievement. I adore each & everyone of them... well most of the time!

My older dc are very successful. The day my ds graduated from uni was the proudest day of my life. My dd has ended up in engineering.

Your so young. Your life will change...
I wish I could go back& tell myself everything will be ok. Enjoy your dc. Well done you for your beautiful dc. It will work out just be kind to yourself. Take care of yourself & the dc.

Best wishes op.
Take care. X

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Shellywelly1973 · 09/11/2013 09:58

Sorry for mega long post!

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kelly21 · 09/11/2013 15:27

shelly thankyou for your post its nice to hear stories with a happy ending :) rather than being told ill end up alone forever i am trying my best to enjoy my children i dont want to miss out on there childhood :) and welldone on acheving everything you wanted and giving your children what they deserve i hope i can do the same x