I have two kids (6 and 8) and have been separated from their father for over four years. Just recently I have realised that I am doing all the leg work for them to see him and I'm getting just slightly pissed off with it.
He does not work, drives but could not afford to keep his car on the road, lives in a bedsit with shared toilet, still spends money on marijuana and rum but pays me no maintenance.
I work, varied hours but basically as many as I can get, 12 hours yesterday and I'm currently on day 8 of 10 days in a row. But I have to take the hours when they are available.
I had asked him to have the kids yesterday so that I could work but he was unable to get them from school (School is 6 miles from him and me - I specifically chose a school which was equidistant between us to facilitate him being an active part of their schooling life, which he isn't).
Last weekend I had to work, the kids were with their father anyway, but I had to lend him my car (with a tank of petrol - returned with 3/4 a tank) so that my daughter could do a tap exam. I also had to give him money for exam fee's etc (£25)
Just feeling like I am running myself ragged whilst he sits on his arse, smoking weed and getting all the fun times with the children.
Up until now he has had them every other weekend, with me dropping them off on a Saturday after a club my daughter attends. I have told him that I am going to stop the dropping off, of course they are available to him if he can find a way of picking them up.
Now feeling like a bitch. Not sure if IABU and just need to suck it up, accept that I'm the one who has to do the running around in order for the children to have a relationship with their father. Or if I should stick to my guns. Thoughts?
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chitofftheshovel · 06/11/2013 09:36
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