AIBU to want to tell him to F off to the far side of F and then F off some more?

[chocoreturns]

email from ex after I told him we are moving (to a lovely and very respectable area, into a house I can afford - my parents and friends all love it and it's close to a brilliant small school).

"I have no say over where or how you chose to live, and pass no judgement whatsoever. I would like to state that the area you are moving to is not an environment I would have chosen for the boys, but I accept that this is your decision. Should the move not work out for the boys for whatever reason, my home is always their home."

What a TWAT. He can't resist the temptation to have a dig, at every possible opportunity. As if my two DS's (1, and 3) are going to move into his house because it's 'not worked out for them'.

Incidentally he has very low contact (2 nights, 6 days) a month because it's all he wants and he has never asked for or offered more. And er, HELLO - we are moving because HE dropped us in it by running off to live with OW. While I was pregnant. So exactly where he gets off telling me MY life choices aren't up to scratch I don't know.

AAAAARGH rant over.

Anyone else want to poke pins in an effigy with me? pffft.

[Lonecatwithkitten]

Ignore, ignore, ignore. He is just fed up that he can't interfere in anyway with your move. If you respond to this in anyway you will allow him to feel he can influence you. I suspect where ever you moved to he wouldn't like it.

[Sasquatch75]

Oooh yes, he would love it if you reply to him and show him he's affected and upset you. Don't respond. What a complete idiot. How dare he write something like that... Ooh I'm getting really cross now! Had a crap day as my exh (13 weeks today) told me he's now looking for a bigger house for him, ow and her kids. So our boys can stay over. Argh!!!

Stab my effigy too?!

[starlight1234]

He is right he has no say over where you live so long as you are not moving abroad...

He just wants to rain on your parade...and doesn't like you making descisions yourself

Enjoy your new home

[chocoreturns]

thanks guys. Yes - he really does love to rain on my parade!! I went round to another single mummy friends house last night and while we were chatting she mentioned that despite her ex being a dick sometimes he always tells her what a great kid they have and what a great job she is doing with him.

I don't think my twunt has ever even acknowledged that I work day in day out to bring up our two boys - let alone considered telling me I'm doing a great job! Oh no. But the slightest chance to tell me my choices are shit, I'm not up to scratch, I'm a crap mum... yep, there with bells on.

What is it with some NRP's that they can't ever just support you instead of undermining all the time!? I guess with my ex it comes down to him being an abusive shitbag. But still. I wish he wasn't.

[BlackeyedSusan]

he has to tell you that you are crap to justify choosing the ow over you. by now, the sheen will be wearing off aand he is seeing the normal everyday vesion of the ow