Really need some advice on this one because I have no idea what to do:
As you'll see from my earlier post I finally got tough with XP and told him that if he wants to see DS (6yo) he has to agree to a regular contact arrangement with me, i.e. planned visits rather than turning up (or not) when he feels like it.
His response to that was that it "wasn't possible" for him to plan his weekends in advance and that he would stop seeing DS.
Despite this dreadful news, and the fact that he hasn't seen DS now for nearly a month, I've stuck to my guns. XP spoke to DS last Sunday and said he wanted to come and see DS this weekend. I said he could come on the understanding that he talks to me about a regular arrangement. I asked him to confirm what time he's coming by today. Of course I've heard nothing. Also have had no maintenance payments from him since May.
So, what should I do? Go back to letting XP see DS when he wants, knowing he'll continue to regularly let him down and that I'll be unable to have any life.
Or do I stick to my guns, denying XP unscheduled contact in the knowledge that XP may walk away entirely. I would do this but it's very hard when DS misses his dad so much and life might be even worse for me with no support at all from XP.
Please help - I feel really desperate about this.
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Sheila · 06/07/2006 11:59
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