being pushed into a corner by cafcass

(9 Posts)
bumptobabies Fri 25-Oct-13 20:59:28

hello, split with dp before ds born. dp does not have pr has never been left alone with ds as i have safeguarding concerns.

ex made application for access it has never been denied. cafcass are doing a section 7 report which i welcome as i have concerns re emotional,psychological abuse, neglect and substance misuse. i have had 1st hearing and interview with cafcass,

ex has had a half hr assessment at a contact centre, i have received his statement nothing much in it no mention of my illness nor anyone in my life putting ds at risk,i however have submitted mine with evidence for each concern,

im now getting emails from cafcass asking me to get consent so people in my life can be crb checked, when its ex that has a record. he is saying im an unfit mother as i have epilepsy my carer has a record from 6 yrs ago for assult he is clutching at straws, any help advice? please what happens if consent is refused?

i feel he has charmed cafcass he is an actor, he has representation i do not however im willing to put on my credit card.

please excuse writing i have a learning difficulty.

how can i get this back on track to being about access that is supervised rather than my life, ?im a therapist to vulnerable adults i do not lead a life that would put my children at any risk hence why i want supervised contact

Spirulina Fri 25-Oct-13 21:05:14

He has concerns about your carer? So let them crb and prove its nothing

I suppose it's sour grapes on his part, but with cafcass it's just hoops to jump through

bumptobabies Fri 25-Oct-13 21:23:42

my carer has a record for assault from 6yrs ago when his father died he had not seen his father for the previous 20yrs so was very upset no excuse but that is the context, my carer does not live with me i live alone with ds he helps me when i need it and i have known him for 20yrs

Spirulina Fri 25-Oct-13 21:30:44

So would he pass a crb? Thing is, the other parent can ask this, as you also would if you had concerns about someone coming into a home your ds spent time in. Is the carer employed by you?

bumptobabies Fri 25-Oct-13 21:45:14

he would not pass, a crb check. if it were a true concern i would be impressed. however he was not concerned about our ds being in his care when i had a broken rib while he left for an acting job, nor were any issues raised in his statement this is only since receiving my statement.

bumptobabies Fri 25-Oct-13 21:46:50

i have been complient with cafcass and will continue to do so but i cannot control others that do not wish to be involved

cestlavielife Fri 25-Oct-13 23:18:34

Depends who he assaulted how bad if he was fined or imprisoned etc etc... Yes will come up on crb. Might mean they want to find out more about him . Depends who he assaulted perhaps if he is deemed danger to ds or not.

You can't get away from it crb will show it up. The question is whether it has relevance to how this person behaves now six years on. If admitted it, was sorry remorseful etc etc. Does this person have current good character and good character references ?

JustMe1993 Tue 29-Oct-13 22:05:39

When CAFCASS did a CRB on me and my DS dad his showed things like theft, joyriding etc but it noted nothing to do with children or acts that would cause harm. Mine came back clear.

They only look at what criminal activity in the past could affect the child

Hope that helps

starlight1234 Tue 29-Oct-13 22:16:39

My ex had a caution for assalt and she said it wasn't relevant to the case...I asked how it wasn't relevant as son was in my arms at the time... I have to say she did change her tune then...

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