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dd didn't get a card from her dad, is it ok to be secretly pleased or..?

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Mascaraohara · 30/06/2006 15:38

do you think he's got something really nasty up his sleeve?

It was her 4th birthday, I can't help but feel happy that he didn't send one at the same time I feel a bit guilty about feeling happy.

He's such a first class w*nker though! I hope that means he's out of her life for good but don't want to count my chickens and also, is that fair on her?

Dd doesn't ever ask about her father and (sadly) only talks negatively about him. His parents dropped some stuff through the door and I was expecting a card from him to be lumped in but there wasn't.

He has a court case hanging over his head after beating up his pregnant and young latest girlfriend so he might be worried about rocking the boat. he's had no contact with dd since the beginning of this year. I want it to stay that way really. It's just so uncharacteristic of him not to be causing me grief.

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drpepper · 30/06/2006 16:36

i dont think you should feel guilty for being pleased ! my ex was also top class tw*t and my dd hasnt had a card for xmas or her birthday and i am glad proves i was right that he is indeed crap father and no good loser ! i am glad he is out of our lives he would be no good in her life ! that may sound harsh and i know will get the ' but a child should see their father' comments but if you knew him you wouldnt think that he was an evil nasty person with a cold heart and he doesnt deserve to be part of my dd's life !

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Mascaraohara · 30/06/2006 16:39

ah good DrPepper, that's exactly how I feel but didn't want to be quite so blunt.

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drpepper · 30/06/2006 16:47

no point in beating around the bush ! my ex caused me some trouble at first but he soon got bored and left me alone as he wasnt and isnt at all bothered about his dd ! i wouldn't worry that he is up to no good he is probably just another sperm doner who doesnt care and has lost interest ! i sound like a right b*tch i am not honest !!

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Mascaraohara · 30/06/2006 16:50

No he's a prize c*nt. Last I heard he'd told the mother of his other daughter that I needed my house burning down, he's a real charmer.

I think it's more that at he's been cautioned for ahrrassing me before now, if he doesn't it again he'll get charged and he already has the court case hanging over him so would probably get banged up. The very thin ice he was on is starting to crack I feel.. which is why I've probably heard nothing from him!

DD couldn't give a monkeys, whenever she hears his name mentioned she quietly tells me she doesn't want to go to grannys because he told me in front of her that next time she went I'd never see her again! knob!

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Caligula · 30/06/2006 16:54

With a father like that, it's perfectly acceptable to be pleased that he's not going to be part of her life.

Not a lot positive that he can add to it, is there?

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Mascaraohara · 30/06/2006 16:56

absolutely none which is why I stopped contact.. I guess just weird as this is the first time no card or anything.

Weird in a good way.. dd never really spent enough time with him to have a strong bond I don't think. We split when she was 6 months. So she has no more of a bod with him than she has with my brother I don't think iykwim!

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