My DS (2 1/2) is due to spend tomorrow night with his dad for the first time. Xh left for first time when DS was 3 months old and has only been around on and off since...
We split up (finally!!) a year ago and have divorce has now come through. As it has not always been a very amicable situation my xh has not been around for the nitty-gritty parenting (dinner, bath, bed etc) and has only really had DS for 9-5 visits on his own.
As this is the first overnight visit I am wondering what the accepted approach was... I am mentally compiling a list of a million dos and don'ts for xh and know that if I actually come out with it he will just switch off!!
I will obviously send DS with favourite teddy, pj's etc etc but not sure about things like night lights and bath stuff (ducks, bath mat etc) etc, etc- I know I am being neurotic mum but am so anxious that it is not too unsettling for DS. Equally, I don't want to just provide everything for xh and do all the thinking for him (which is how our marriage worked!).
We negotiated the access through mediation and xh is supposed to be sorting practical stuff (nightlights, stairgate etc) himself. Really doubt that he will though and have now got my knickers in a twist about it!
Do I just leave them to muddle through together or do I provide everything "just in case"??
Sorry for waffle!!
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What is the etiquette?? DS having first overnight visit with his dad
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Fluffybubble · 30/06/2006 13:53
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