Long story, things hadnt really been good for a while, we had some 'bedroom' issues, we hadnt been spending time together, if we were together we were snappy with each other, basically had drifted apart but neither of us seemed to want to face the obvious - that there were problems. So we just drifted along livivng seperate lives. There were some things which I couldnt live with, because it was wrong but I was too frightened to do anything about it, didnt think I could cope on my own.
Then he was invited to a Stag weekend away in BlackPool but we decided that he wasnt going to go, and then changed his mind. I was concerned about him going because I know what his brothers are like and so we talked it through alot behand. I didnt want him to go to strip clubs and stuff, and his brother promised me there would be none of that. I told him how it would make me feel and that it would hurt me. He promised me that there would be no strippers. Then on the night really late I got a call saying "oh guess what im doing/have done..." he'd had lap dances and private dances and blown our months money.
I was really hurt that he had lied to me, and knowingly hurt me, and i couldnt even look at him, everytime I did I saw him with a naked woman on his lap. We argued about it and I sent him to his moms, it was like the last straw and I couldnt take anymore.
It wasnt the stripper thing that really ended it, it was more a build up of everything else. We talked about and both agreed that we had alot of stuff to work out if we were going to get back together, which hopefully at some point in the future we will. He needs couselling for the issues that he had and i wont consider taking him back for a long time. I need time alone too to really think about what I want and need. We met and married very young and quickly and have changed alot as we've got older.
Mil is a problem though and is really hindering any progress that we are trying to make. As for whether is perminate or not, only time will tell, I really dont know.
Sorry that was long!