I need to rant (again)!!

[rickman]

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[charliecat]

I can only sympathise Rickman. I would be just the same, if not worse and actually jumping up and down throwing a proper tantrum, its not fair really is it?

[Caligula]

Rickman, they're at the honeymoon stage at the moment. They play happy families with her because they don't know her very well and aren't sure of her place in their lives. And they come home and misbehave with you because they feel secure enough to be naughty at home. They're not at home there if they're not playing up. And if they ever do get to feel at home, your ex and gf will get the full, glorious array of awful behaviour while you're sitting in the garden with a magazine and a G&T.

[crazychilledmummy]

plus you will only hear from them about the good bits - you can bet your life that if your children threw up all over the GF's car, kicked her in the shins, thought she was ugly compared to their lovely mummy you would not hear about it ! Good for you not texting, soooo difficult isn't it? Most "happy families" are grinning and bearing it for the public. They will never be her children, you will always be their mum.

[rickman]

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[crazychilledmummy]

Understandable I think seeing as its not someone you know well and haven't been able to vet her. I'm sure your exP wouldn't put your children in danger though. I think unfortunately its something you are going to have to get used to - painful and worrying as it is. No experience myself (have that yet to come!) but from friends understand that it does get easier (especially from the day they come home and tell you daddy and his lovely new girlfriend have been at each others throats all day arguing or they found slimming pants in the girlfriends wardrobe !!! .

[Caligula]

LOL at the slimming pants

[mistressmiggins]

Hi Rickman

just come on here to say exactly the same thing and found your thread

my children have been to daddy's new house for the weekend and met HER for the first time

DS told me that theyd been on a lovely trip: that Daddy's GF cooked lovely food; that he "loves her so much"; that if I hadnt been soi bossy daddy wouldnt have left

but you know what? how can he love someone from one meeting? He cant cos hes 4 & doesnt understand what the word means, and he obviously wants her to like him

he also said hed been on holiday with daddy so obviosuly thinks thats what this weekend was

it hurts like hell - of coursae it does
it does feel like they're playing happy families but the other posts are absolutely right

I just hope that the children continue to like going and that this woman although helped break up my marriage, will treat my kids with respect & love them

putting kids to bed now but will be back later

well done you (us) for hiding how we feel and how hurtful it is to have our children say these things

[rickman]

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[crazychilledmummy]

you'll always be number 1, you are their mum. [hugs].

[mistressmiggins]

you ARE no 1
you always will be
I know this and believe it BUT its still hard
I certainly wouldnt worry about them prefering her - they have to like her otherwise they might worry that daddy wont like them - thats the way I read the situation

why doesnt he have DS2 yet?
how old is he?

my DD is only just 2 and its her Im anxious about - cant explain to her whats happening and hate the fact that they are 2 1/2 hrs drive away from me

people mean well (dont mean posts on this thread but RL) when they say "kids adapt" etc - sure they do but it hurts that they should have to be in this predicament

have to say that after posting this last night, DD woke around 10pm and had an absolute screaming/coughing fit so that she was sick all over the bed...ended up sleeping my bed as everytime I left the room she started screaming again

from what I gather, to begin with thats normal - kids behave when away and then when home again, play up cos at home with you is where they feel the safest

{{{{hugs}}}}