XP wants me to pay him to take DD to school for one day!

[Aimsmum]

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[pinkranger]

i think that HE is being unreasonable!
I unfortantly have no advice but you should stick to your guns on this and not pay him!
Bloody Cheek

[Bozza]

he is really trying to pull a fast one. And btw no CM would charge £25 for before school. Although as you say this isn't the issue. Why do some men think they are doing you a favour all the time?

[bundle]

No. This is Not On.

[BROWNY]

I like your friend's suggestion!! Brilliant!! Seriously though, he is being totally selfish and unreasonable, why can't he take her to school earlier that day, this has happened in my children's school on rare occasions and the class teacher watches over the child in his/her classroom - it's only 5 minutes early!!!

Or why can't he take the morning off, or inform his place of work that he needs to take his child to school - parents are given unpaid time out of work for situations such as these!

Try and enjoy your weekend - you deserve it!

[coppertop]

The cheeky bstrd!

[TheMammy]

Can't you get someone else to do it and then he won't see her at all that weekend, the arse!

[Aimsmum]

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[Aimsmum]

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[tamum]

What a complete arse (him not you, obviously). Is there no way you could drop her off at one of her wee schoolfriend's houses that morning a bit early, so she could go to school with one of them? You must be fuming...

[Kathlean]

Is there not another mum who lives near you who could take her just once?

[Blackduck]

Is there absolutely no one else who can do it? Another mum/dad? This is just totally not on and NO WAY should you pay him....quite frankly I'd try to find a child minder who does a school drop off and pay THEM to to it...

[tenalady]

What job does he do, cos quite honestly any employer would not mind him being a few mins late on a one off occasion especially where children are involved. Ah leave him to it, he is just looking to control the situation.

[Aimsmum]

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[Blackduck]

Can't the local ones drop her off and then drop their own off even if they are different schools (assuming they aren't miles apart....

[meowmix]

dodgy precedent to set tho - £25 for taking dd to school..... £50 for having her for the pm.... awful behaviour imho, think how dd would feel about it

[Airy]

I'd ask at the school tommorow if it would be ok to bring her in a little early on Friday. do they have a breakfast club she could go to?
Or maybe if you asked one of her schoolfriends mum's they'd be willing to get to school a little early and take her from him at the playground?
I definitely wouldn't pay him, what a complete a*e she's his daughter too!

Love the idea of billing him for all the days you take her in though

[sugarfree]

Don't have any practical solutions for you but I am furious on your behalf.This is blackmail.
What really worries me is that if he gets away with it this time,what's he going to try next?
You sound alot calmer tha I would be in your shoes.

[Munchkinola]

What an a$$e!!!!!
It would be great to turn round and say s'ok dont you need your help now....
on your behalf

[JanH]

Presumably you have his work phone number, Aimsmum? Would it be a Really Awful thing to do to ring his dept head, explain the situation (including the request for £25!) and ask if it would be OK if he is 5 minutes late that day? Or would the fallout from him be nuclear?

What a twunt

Hope you sort something out and enjoy your weekend anyway.

[bluejelly]

My ex used to do this- -make my life as difficult as possible if he ever thought I 'needed' him rather than dd going to him because HE needed to see her...

He has got a lot better actually but it took a few years to get where we are today.

I would just go and leave him to figure out the details. When you're away ring your dd at a set time and then turn off the phone. DOn't let him ruin your weekend you so deserve a break!

[spacecadet]

i really hate it when x's use their own children to get at the parent, its pathetic, childish and the only person they punish in the e nd is the child, what a complete *!!!, ive had years of this from xp so sympathise.
its a crying shame you cant ask anyone else as this is giving him the perfect oppurtunity to blackmail you.
try calling his bluff, say, forget it, ive made other arrangements and youve just missed out on seeing your child, or if you think, he would probably say "fine", you could do what your friend suggested, present him with a bill for childcare services provided over the years, or say, fine, take the 25 pounds off the xx amount you owe me for x yeatrs childcare.
or do as janh suggests, offer to ring his department and clear the lateness with them, he might come out in a cold sweat!

[Freckle]

Excuse me, but how is being 5 mins late for work going to make him out of pocket? What does the £25 cover? Ask him for a letter from his employer confirming that they will deduct £25 from his pay if he is 5 mins late. Where on earth does he work if he is paid £25 for every 5 mins????

He's a prize *rse.

[Radley]

Tell him you haven't had time to go to the bank and you'll pay him when you get back, or, write him a cheque and 'accidentally' put the year wrong or something, so that when he tries to cash it, it will be returned.

[Munchkinola]

Ooooh Rdaley, now thats a sneaky solution, I like your style!!!!!

[spacecadet]

radley-good thinking!