So.... ex and I split a year ago. He was cheating on me for some time with a woman he worked with. We had just bought a house together and after a year of fighting with him and his manipulative family, I (stupidly) signed the house over to him with no financial gain on my part. This left me in a rented flat with my daughter, who lives with me 90% of the time.
The last few months have smoothed out for us a bit and I thought we were just getting to the stage when things might settle down and we could just be happy, separate parents and provide our DD with two solid loving homes - the best of a bad situation.
So, ex turns up on my doorstep to collect DD yesterday and announces he is moving the 'other woman' and her two older children in to the house we built together. Not only that, the he is moving the woman's daughter in to my DD's bedroom - the same room I spent weeks decorating for her before we moved in. I wouldn't mind so much if it was clear that this move was because they love each other and are at that stage of the relationship. But Ex has just been made redundant, so is clearly just trying to support himself financially by moving her in - saving his own arse at the detriment of my DD.
I have no emotional attachment to this idiot of a man any more. I have my own (amazing) partner now and have no feelings of jealousy that he will be living with someone else. I just feel so horrendously bad for my little girl, who will suddenly have another family living in her Dads house with him, 90% of the time, when she only visits every other weekend and one night a week.
DD is 3, I'm sure lots of you with toddlers will understand what that age is all about, how important it is for them to have their own space that they feel comfortable in. She is a sensitive little soul and I know it will be hard for her going to his house when other kids have been in her room, playing with her toys and spending time with her dad. She will feel like she's been outed in favour of this woman's children.
I really need some advice from people on how to make this as easy as possible for my little one. It's been a tricky year for her getting used to all the changes and I really don't want this to rock her any more than necessary. He hasn't got a clue how to support her emotionally and is clearly just thinking about himself... Has anyone else been through this? x
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Feel so bad for my DD - ex moving his g/f's family in
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Mybabysmellsofbiscuits · 20/08/2013 08:57
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