Have ds8, dd almost 7 and dd2 3 months. I have asked h for a divorce after finding out last weekend that he has been up to no good on the Internet and with a work colleague (says it was only sext not physical but I don't believe him, who would?) he has agreed to the divorce and will have a flat available from the end of this month.
Obv I am worried about impact on older kids, although they have been very pragmatic about it so far, dd is already designing her new bedroom at his house, ds has been quieter but ok. Dd2 I am more worried about as how on earth will she develop a normal relationship with him when he only sees her 4/5 times a week? The plan is for him to initially see her here, as I'm bf, and possibly take her out once a week with the older two, the rest of the time staying here whilst I get on with housework probably every day for an hour or two.
Those of you whose children were tiny when their father left, do they call him daddy? Is their relationship strong?
Also, for the older kids, he wants to see them as much as possible, so he will be having them for tea a couple of nights after school, one midweek night, and one full day/overnight at the weekends. Tbh with them being at school he will probably see more of them than I will! It does make sense to do this at the moment because with dd2 being so small, things are quite fraught in the evenings as she needs bath and bed at the same time as they need story and supervising to get themselves ready for bed, I did it last night with all of them having baths and hair washed/dried and it was bloody awful, dd2 cried for most of it as needing picking up but I was washing hair/drying hair so couldn't. Then cried through Most of the story so no one enjoyed it.
Please tell me it will get easier as I get more used to it, I felt like no 1 shit mum!
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Twattybollocks · 13/05/2013 06:13
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