Hi Guys, This might be a long one as I've never sought advice on this before and it's been going on for a long time. I met my ex while I was in an alcohol treatment centre nearly 3 years ago. He was 43, very savvy, confident and openly sexual and I was 20, suicidal, messed up, generally on the floor. We started sleeping together anyway and he subsequently lost his job a few months later when it came out. He lost another one for abusing someone else after.
After that what happened was two years of mental abuse, cheating, lying, humiliating me in public etc. He would tell me about 14 year old girls in the park he thought were sexy and wanted to shag, asked if he could have sex with my 17 year old cousin, stare at women on the road until he'd got lost in the car or nearly crashed. It just destroyed me but because of my background I never felt strong enough to leave him, I just hated myself more and more as the weeks went on.
We split up for a few months, but when we got back together I was feeling a lot stronger, happier, I'd had intense therapy and AA work and have no idea why I went back to a man like that. So started another year and a half of sexualising old women, young women, relatives, friends, sister etc. He cheated on me for five months while my mum was sick in the hospital. Tried to arrange to have a threesome with a woman who was on drugs. I found illegal porn on his computer (bestiality), found out he'd slept with a prostitute in the same bed he had me and his daughter in (not my daughter). Was obsessed with schoolgirls, offered to buy my cousin a dildo, he'd let his daughter use his laptop which he watched around 2 hours of porn every single night on. When his other daughter was born he was trying to meet men on the internet for sex, telling his wife he was going out to AA meetings. This was before me.
This man has never given me any reason to think that he's not an out-and-out pervert. I have no idea how I stayed with him for so long when he constantly told me that there was something better and younger around the corner. Some of the things he's said to me would be considered illegal (animals and 14 year olds, incest). We split up when I got pregnant because I couldn't take any more of it, and am now starting to see how much this man destroyed my head and my life.
I don't want him around the baby, or me. My family all want to kill him but I don't know what I can do about this once the child is born. I couldn't trust him with it.
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ColdHardFloor · 11/05/2013 09:00
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