I have 2 DCs and for the past 2.5 yrs their delightful father has pretty well detached himself from their lives.
For 18 months after I found out about the affair he lived in the spare room, then last year he moved out and straight in with OW and her 2 DCs.
Contact has been confined to 14 overnights and him picking eldest DC from school and then running back to new home 2 hrs later. Contact is random, I am not allowed to know anything advance, eg, he phones at 1000 in the morning and says he will pick them up. Thursday PM he phoned to say he wanted then on Saturday night would pick them up about 1700 on sat and could I collect on Sunday about 1600 - 60 miles away.
I am so tired of him treating the DCs so badly and feel like a doormat,I try ensure that they maintain contact, they adore him but the lack of planning and hence total control he ahs over my life, he knows what I do, when, where how etc is driving me mad.
He is very verbally abusive and threatens me with all hell and damnation if I ruffle his or her feathers.
Eldest DC 6, spoke to me this evening as they are with Dad and told me he did not want to live this life anymore, he did not want to stay with Dad and OW- my heart cracked. how sad is that?
How do I get control back without hurting the DCs.
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Theydeserve · 21/04/2013 00:57
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