I've never posted here before but I'm after some advice I suppose, or to see if iabu. I split with my ex late last year, for all of 2013 he has seen our children on tues & thurs evenings (not overnight) and sat & sun during the day. He chose the days & times. Now after almost 4 months of these days he wants to change an evening & has offered to have them overnight sometimes on a fri. He's discussed it with our kids already, even though I have spoken to him previously about discussing things with them before we have come to an agreement. Our kids range from 10-15, one has emotional special needs, I've spoken to social services about some previous concerns, our child with special needs is having issues at school and they are aware of how things are affecting our child. After months of counselling i've realised that he was EA to me the whole time we were together. his moods swing from missing me, to anger, jealousy (uses the kids to try to hurt me) and last about 2 weeks at a time. I've finally had enough of him trying to control me & I'm happy with the days/times he sees them. I've also made it clear he can see them more if he wants & overnight but I'm not budging on the days we already have. He's now saying he just won't see them on the day he wants to change & I've said he can take me to court & that until then he's not going to see them, I know that's unreasonable of me but I'm sick of him trying to control me even though we're not together & constantly making me out to be the unfair parent. To put it into context he sees them for 11.5 hours a week & reluctantly pays £40 a week maintenance. He's also moved in with a gf, moved out of his gf's, got engaged, cancelled the engagement, supposedly planned holidays with the kids & gf, all of which he's involved the kids in they're coping remarkably well considering, and I'm not in any way jealous, I'm the one who ended our relationship & I'm seeing a lovely man (who my kids haven't met yet) but I'm just sick to death of my ex. Should I just give in and swap days like he wants? I see my bf most tues, thurs & sat, evenings, and I'm happy with that, it gives me a fri night to spend with my friends if I want or chilling at home with my kids. Oh and the reason ex wants to swap days??? So he can get some exercise, but actually means he can get to the pub earlier
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