positive cafcass experiences?

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The CAFCASS officer at my contact hearing was great, she really listened to DD's wishes (age 15) and put her point of view across in court in a way that reflected DD's feelings and got her the outcome she wanted (dad asked for 50%, he got every other Saturday night!) I think she did a great job and she made the nightmare much easier to handle for me and DD.

iwantanafternoonnap Sat 20-Apr-13 21:35:37

Mine was good although only went to court once and did not do mediation. I also had not stopped contact or prevented contact or had any problems with ex having DS. I wanted ex to have more contact than he wanted which he refused. I could also prove that it was him that had failed to turn up on numerous occasions to go to party's/holidays/weekends away etc. Which clearly made him a liar.

Ex wanted me to drive half way to where he had moved with OW and I was flatly refusing to do so. CAFCASS backed me all the way and it was written into court order that he had to do all pick ups and the judge gave him a little bollocking and that he needed to start making DS a priority and not to keep messing about with contact.

Mind you contact order means nothing as ex doesn't have anything to do with DS anymore. Interferes with his new life!!

FuckOffMrBloom Sat 20-Apr-13 21:34:49

Mine never got as far as court because he didn't ask for contact, but the Cafcass officer who looked over my case (I was sorting out residency) was lovely, very reassuring, and was going to tell the court they didn't think my ex having contact was in the children's best interests at all.

Who knows how it would have actually gone though.

betterthanever Sat 20-Apr-13 21:29:41

I'm up to my third hearing, the first officer has left. They were ok - they had the total measure of my ex but their hands are tied. Who knows what the next one will be like. My nightmare will go on years... the system has to change.

HopingItllBeOK Sat 20-Apr-13 17:51:28

Good luck with that. I posted in AIBU a few months back asking if anyone had any positive stories. It is a high traffic topic. I got around 7 replies, all saying No apart from one from a step mother saying Cafcass were great in helping her DP get regular contact with his children. I have yet to find a mother/RP who doesn't feel as if they were shafted by Cafcass, that the children's views were ignored in favour of the NRP's wishes and that took safety concerns seriously.

I'm sure there must be some positive stories though, and I genuinely hope someone comes along here to put me right as I don't want to believe that Cafcass screw up everyone's cases as badly as they did mine.

Sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear.

kittycat68 Sat 20-Apr-13 17:05:53

you will be lucky!! they mostly side with fathers these days no matter what apparently even if they throw there kids into the wall and punch them in the face and are enmotionally abusive to them fathers should have a relationship with their kids 50/50 !

Piemother Thu 18-Apr-13 20:22:51

Nope. Afraid they were shit

lucyloo78 Wed 17-Apr-13 15:07:22

Pls shed a little light on this subject & if u have had good experiences with cafcass. thanks x

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