This is my first MN posting. I'd be really grateful for your help out there.
Story: I work in a professional job in a rural area. H is totally lazy. I employed full-time nanny until our youngest started school even thought H wasn't really working at all. so, H cannot claim to be main-carer, in reality. DCs are girl 12 and boy 10. I left my H 7 months ago now and rented cottage, leaving H in matrimonial home, which belongs to me. H was alcoholic and abusive. I was at end of tether. We agreed 50:50 parenting split of DCs. DD fine (12) spends 50/50 me and H but DS (10) is siding with H and although I see him for 2 afternoons a week he won't stay the night with me (as DS thinks I'll come home if he won't support me in my new house - lots more to tell here). Severe case of parental alienation.
I have been good and calm. I work hard. H is charming, handsome wastrel.
Has anyone out there had similar experience?
H refuses to left DCs be told of divorce and if I do it alone with them then it will all be my 'fault' - again!
H is clearly suffering from personality disorder. We are seeing consellor/mediator, who agrees with me that H has major 'issues'.
I have vg divorce solicitor. H and I have gone through mediation and got DN. H is only just now agreeing that we will divorce. I am going to have to pay H big slice of my wealth and ongoing-maintenance (but...worth it!). All assets in my name as he is drunken sot and I realised early in marriage that he was dreadful with money. The stories I could tell you would make your hair curl.
Any thoughts - anybody??????????????????
PS I'm not as tough as I sound but cracking-up isn't an option.
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becarefulwhatyouwishfor · 16/02/2013 19:59
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