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er1507 · 08/02/2013 20:49

Dd is 18mo and we have been on our own since I kicked exp out when she was 3months. We split up before I got pregnant and should have stayed that way but had a holiday to Cuba booked and at the time I let him convince me it would be a good ideas to still go together, had a moment of passion before we went and I realised while we were away that I was pregnant. So stayed together...anyway fast forward now and I've recieved about £50 off him through the whole of my pregnancy and up until today. I have managed to accumulate a very small amount of debt and after working out all my outgoings last week, i am left with £18pw to do a food shop, buy nappies and pay off debt. Take dd to playgroups ect. There is absolutly no way i could cut back, i dont drink/smoke, i cant give my ar back as i would have to pay money to do so, i cant stop my virgin media services as i would have to pay the remainder of my contract. i work 17.5hrs pw and have a feeling at this moment in time I probably would be better off not working. I'm not against being a single sahm but I love what I do and know that one day I will be better off and also I'm lucky to have a job. Not expecting any advice but I can't help but think this all sucks!

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 08/02/2013 20:57

It does suck, and I just wanted to say I sympathise.
I'm alone too and still on maternity leave, going back to college, living with my folks and struggle to manage now so I'm terrified about what the future holds
Just wanted to say I sympathise x

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corlan · 08/02/2013 20:59

It sucks so hard it almost blows!

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betterthanever · 08/02/2013 21:05

When DS was younger I was left with very little but now he is at school and I don't have nursery fees I am glad I kept up the job for us both. It will get easier and you have your DD. The sun will shine on you both - good luck with everything.

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DoubleYew · 08/02/2013 21:42

CSA. He has a responsibility to contribute.

Have you been to CAB to do a check you are getting all the benefits you are entitled to, plus perhaps they can suggest something about the debt? You have to prioritise food and nappies obviously so it doesn't sound like you can afford to pay it off now.

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