Lone parenting 3 children

(10 Posts)
foolonthehill Sat 26-Jan-13 23:34:46

After 15 months on my own with 4 primary aged children..no contact with their Dad: it's hard but it's worth it and you CAN do it.

Just give yourself time for a good cry every now and then!
Be as organisd as possible and don't sweat the small stuff.

If your DCs have time with their DFs then you will have alittle breathing space, make the most of it. And if not be grateful you are not at their beck and call!

50shadesofvomit Sat 26-Jan-13 21:53:27

I became a lone parent of 3 this month.
It's easier than being a parent of 3 kids with my xh as I have less household chores to like his washing and I can do what I want.

Snapespeare Sat 26-Jan-13 21:46:27

Mine were 4, 2 & 9months old when their dad left. They are now 17, 14 & 13.

I've always worked full time, no support from my family parents both died before DCs were born, XPs parents lived 70 miles away, but have been generally lovely. I had excellent affordable childcare while they were at primary school & their primary teachers universally adored them,

A few shaky bits along the way..their dad is now a violent alcoholic & we moved 500+ miles away from him two years ago, so I could take a promotion at work. There have been problems with 2/3rds of them regarding 2ndry school. DD has more or less dropped out of her 2nd year of A levels, which, to be honest is disappointing...but she is beautiful, assured, takes no shit & has a lovely bf & a part time job. DS1 has lots of problems at he moment, but I don't attribute those to a mono-parent household. At his best he is kind, hilariously funny & very, very talented. DS2 is just lovely in all ways. He is a joy. Tries SO hard at everything, never gives up.

It's tough. Although I earn twice as much as when XP left (which is just as well as he contributes sod-all) there is never enough money. We've never had a family holiday, the DCs don't have after school activities, they have always had packed lunches etc...

As they've got bigger, it's got easier...& more complicated. But I guess that happens. smile. You can absolutely do this & your DCs won't be any the worse for it.

DiscretionAdvised Sat 26-Jan-13 21:16:42

Can't inspire you but can hold your hand. Dh moves out Friday. I'm terrified! Mine are 8,5,3. How old are yours? Do you have help, family nearby?

I work full time but do have an au pair.

Good luck!

lulu1971 Sat 26-Jan-13 21:13:44

Thanks fairy, I did do it before, but it took a while to adapt to it and even though there were parts of lone parenting I loved, there were times when it all got a bit too much

ProphetOfDoom Sat 26-Jan-13 21:12:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

CatelynStark Sat 26-Jan-13 21:12:21

You can do it. I did when mine were 8, 3 and 11 months. Yes, it was hard work but now my youngest is 11 years old, things are so much easier. We are a little gang and the children are very close. I couldn't be happier with how they're turning out. Sorry if that's boasting, but it's true smile

If I'd stayed with their father, they would be very insecure with years of therapy ahead of them. I made the right choice. You can too.

You've done it before you can totally do it again.

You've done it before you can totally do it again.

lulu1971 Sat 26-Jan-13 21:03:45

I am facing the prospect of being a lone parent of 3 children. and the thought terrifies me. I was a lone parent of 2 for 18 months until i met my partner and we went on to have a little one together. He has now done something totally unforgivable and I am making plans to escape. Please inspire me, tell me your success stories and help me believe I can do this alone!

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now