Hey everyone
I'm wondering if I can get some advice. My 3 year old son's Father has been absent from his life for almost a year now. He missed his birthday and xmas and ds doesn't recognise him or know who his Dad is any more even after seeing pictures and videos of him.
I recently tried to call him to discuss a name discrepancy on ds's passport but as soon as the word 'name' came up he yelled and hung up on me assuming I was planning on changing ds's name.
Today I received a letter from solicitors saying that he wants to resume contact and have ds every other weekend over night for the entire weekend and there are lots of holes in his account of things over the past year. He has even stated that I said 'he didn't have a say in anything and that he can't see ds at all' which I have never done. I am upset that he is making out I've refused to let him see ds and am really against him having him overnight.
I would agree to a contact centre but have suggested it before and he has been very opposed.
He is incapable of looking after ds properly, he smokes and often leaves him with random family members. Plus he is a stranger to ds.
I'm just unsure what to do as the letter states a request for mediation. What does this mean? Will my views be listened to? Or can he force me to let ds stay with him overnight or someplace other than a contact centre?
Ds is only three so it's hard to know what is really in his best interest, he recently told me that I'm his Mummy & Daddy and I found it really cute, but is it wrong of me to want it to continue just the two of us as it has been? It's been so much less stress without his Father on the scene.
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After a year he suddenly wants to be involved again!
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bubblesey · 24/01/2013 11:48
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