Sorry about this being long!
my DD is 5 months. She wasn't planned and her dad wanted me to get an abortion. Her dad has never been bothered about her, seeing her a few hours a month overall if that and threatening that it "won't be worth the money if i go to CSA" so he hasn't paid anything (please don't tell me to go anyway- i really don't think that it wouldn't be worth the stress)
He tried for a while to stop me going out by texting most days saying he'd be coming over at some point and that if i wasn't there he'd report me for stopping contact, and not replying if i asked for a time. He would then usually not turn up or if he did would come for 10 minutes and not pay attention to DD most of the time, prefering to tell me how shit a mum i'm being, telling me DD is ugly and takes after me, or laughing if she cried.
I mostly just ignored him and stayed "cheerful" with him while restraining the urge to punch him most days and he seems to have got bored of this the past month or so, and i hadn't heard from him for a few weeks.
He's now phoned me today and asked what age DD will stop breastfeeding, I asked why he wanted to know, and he said "because as soon as she does I'll take you to court and i'll have her half of each week" i hung up because i was thinking it's most likely just a windup, and he hasn't rang back.
but i was just wondering where i stand on this? If he doesnt bother to see her from now until then... and suddenly goes to court, would he actually get this because of having PR?
I don't think he'd want to do it because he clearly doesnt give a toss about DD, but I'm worried he might as he's gone to so much hassle to try and get at me before.
Sorry for being so long
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sparklypuddles · 27/12/2012 12:34
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