Posted before re ex and contact with our 2 year old ds.
I went to solicitor and offered 2x overnight per week as well as every Sunday from 10am til 4pm. Ex is a bully and I shouldn't have agreed to this but I did and he has had 2 months of this agreement.
In that time he has cancelled Sunday contact or cut it short 3 or 4 times or turned up hungover having not gone to bed til 5/6/7am.
I take ds to nursery and pick him up from ex's 2 mornings per week. Since agreement started ex has failed to have ds ready for me, in fact I have to go to his to get ds up and ready otherwise I'd ne late for work. We are talking 7.30 in the morning here.
Ex held Xmas over me as it happened to land on his night, I stupidly invited him to mine because I couldn't have bared to be away from ds. Big mistake, ex will never be allowed near my home, he was verbally abusive on Xmas morning cos ds is clingy(as in he doesn't really bother with his dad cos his dad does very little with him/for him). I realise I was so so wrong to have him here, and for agreeing to that amount of contact in first place but I've finally finally had enough of being bullied into things by him and realise that ex does not provide enough for ds, he doesn't bath him/ read to him etc.i have an app with my solicitor on Friday and need to think about how to go about reducing access.
I'm scared of him, or of his reactions. I have in to his demands previously and he has not stepped up one bit, I need to stop worrying about his reactions and act for my ds.
I have kept a texts and a diary of failed contact etc but I really have no idea what to offer.
Can anyone hold my hand or offer any advice on what you would do in same circumstances please?
I do have a women's aid outreach worker who has been fabulous and who is aware of ex's bullying behaviour and is aware of my fears. Hate being in this situation
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Wereonourway · 26/12/2012 19:41
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