Where are all the nice men

(117 Posts)
oscarthegrouch Mon 19-Nov-12 23:24:52

My friends all seem to have hit on lucky with their partners it's making me feel lonely!

Are there any nice men left? I never seem to meet any

equinox Tue 20-Nov-12 13:16:25

Well that is a deafening silence hope that answers your question lol.

oscarthegrouch Tue 20-Nov-12 13:30:25

Pmsl haha I know!!! I may join a nunnery

GetAllTheThings Tue 20-Nov-12 13:40:28

Of course there are nice men left, but we they're a retiring breed unlikely to be found out on the open planes of singledom.

I'd hope I'm a nice man. But I work hard, see my dd as much as I can and pretty much sleep the rest of the time.

GreenBurrito Tue 20-Nov-12 14:23:18

I'd also like to think that I'm a nice man, but I'm not currently looking don't have the time for a relationship!

I'm just trying to support my xp and our baby, as soon as they decide to arrive, as our due date was yesterday!

I can imagine a few of them do get a little bit scared once they start reading these boards though grin

GetAllTheThings Tue 20-Nov-12 14:52:31

I think mumsnet has put me off relationships grin

oscarthegrouch Tue 20-Nov-12 15:18:31

Was starting to wonder if it was me, the last one I let into my family unit totally broke my heart and I felt utter guilt that my ds was put in that situation. So the next one will have to be perfect grin

GreenBurrito Tue 20-Nov-12 16:38:58

Haha GetAllTheThings I can understand, I almost got put off myself... almost grin

I can understand, oscarthegrouch, I think I'm going to be very weary of introducing new partners to DC myself, probably vet them for a good few months before hand!

oscarthegrouch Tue 20-Nov-12 17:17:15

I've just posted about my exp recently introducing ds to his current squeeze - the 6th in a year. He met her after 2 days if their "relationship". Arse!!!

GetAllTheThings Tue 20-Nov-12 17:22:10

Jesus. I agreed with my XP I'd be six months before any partner was introduced to dd.

I'd really struggle with seeing someone else's dc more than my own( as an NRP ) . I'm sure it could work I'm just rather hesitant. But realistically, given I rarely go out these days except to the woods for a walk, I doubt there's any romance that's going to randomly knock on my door.....

..... hold on there's someone at the door.

GreenBurrito Tue 20-Nov-12 19:43:05

That is just disrespectful oscar, I couldn't do it myself.

My xp and I had also agreed on the six month wait, but seeing as she now already has a new partner and has been dating him for about 2 months, she thinks that she can introduce him to our DC once they've reached 4 months old.
I am totally against since as I had assumed neither of us were interested in another relationship at the time and I think that she should wait until DC is at least 6 months old.
Also it does make me worry as I also am a NRP.

Haha GetAllTheThings, any luck at the door?

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream Tue 20-Nov-12 19:46:32

All the nice men are at home with their boyfriend's obviously. The best looking ones are any way! grin

avenueone Tue 20-Nov-12 19:53:25

Lets start a dating thread on this lone parents section, we seem to have what is required: men and women both single and both understand what it is like being a single parent... who knows what will happen grin
just going for walks in the woods grin who was at the door grin
I am liking a happy thread on the board.. must be in an optimistic mood or am I flirting for the first time in years...

oscarthegrouch Tue 20-Nov-12 20:51:38

haha the last few posts have made me chuckle!! you're right avenueone its always depressing on these threads!

on a depressing note (ha) i didnt clearly state that ds had met ALL 6 of these gfs, not just the recent one! it is disrespectful and its bloody lovely to hear about other dad's views on this, I hope my exp is in the minority

GreenBurrito Wed 21-Nov-12 11:09:13

It's certainly an idea and would be a nice bit of light heartedness smile

In the meantime though I am constantly staring at my phone waiting for the call to say xp has gone to the hospital, I think I'm beginning to go a little insane and it's definately getting hard to concentrate!
I dread to feel how this is affecting xp if I'm like this!

GetAllTheThings Wed 21-Nov-12 11:18:44

Ok, was just the postman at the door delivering my 'Pipe Smokers and Slippers Weekly'

I am actually Daniel Craig. I've given old Rachael the heave-ho and am available for daring missions. I do have a slight kink about painting women gold from head to toe whilst making sexist quips though.

Peterpan101 Wed 21-Nov-12 18:43:46

Thought you were on about James Bond until you implied he says sexist things!

Graciescotland Wed 21-Nov-12 18:55:54

I do know a couple of lovely blokes who've sworn not to date women with kids again. Both had long term relationships where they were called Dad and loved the children like they were their own. However when the relationships ended they were told not to contact the DC again; essentially they lost their family and I can imagine the possibility of that happening scares a lot of "nice guys" off.

AmIthatScary Thu 22-Nov-12 00:16:21

Oh well, I am sure there must be some nice men out there. I have to believe that, or else I would go mad.

I haven't had any male interest for 8 years. You'd think Ii would be over it by now, but I'm really not.

I would so, so, so love someone for the occasional hug/date/anything else.

I never imagined that I would be single at my age, and it's not for the wont of trying.

Seems all the men are otherwise engaged sad

QuiteQuiet Thu 22-Nov-12 20:15:43

I have heard of the things 'nice men' but have yet to meet one. grin

I am sticking to my children and animals and will have a look in a few years time.

ThatsNice Thu 22-Nov-12 20:23:18

Another one here wondering if I should just head off to find a commune instead... :/

FerrisBueller1972 Thu 22-Nov-12 20:26:44

When you do find them please tell me where they are grin

QuiteQuiet Thu 22-Nov-12 20:28:03

Erm.. sorry no way if I find one I am locking him in and stealing his shoes. grin

beujolais Thu 22-Nov-12 21:09:27

The last man i dated (almost 5 years ago, ahem) was very nice, he just wasn't quite over his ex, shame as i really could see us going somewhere. Haven't really attempted anything since, it was too painful.

ThatsNice Thu 22-Nov-12 21:14:10

Must admit, I've just not long broken up with a really lovely guy. It just wasn't 'right' though and I could feel myself starting to 'settle' and we both deserved better than that sad

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