When did/do you feel homesick, if ever?

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I live in the Caribbean.
For once, it's cold, grey, windy.
I love the weather like this; just for one day I can walk in fresh cool air, without bugs, humidity,sun lotion, sun glasses, red blotchy cheeks, sweat pooling in my bra.I can leave the house and feel like I can breathe.
I can sit in the porch in a hoody.
I miss the seasons, my home city of London, my friends, my family so so much.
I have been here two years. I moved when my son was 12 weeks old.
I wonder if I will ever feel like I like it here.
I get on with it but on days like today it's all I can do not to weep with homesickness.
Do you get homesick?
Did it pass? Does it get better/come in waves/get triggered by certain things?

Makingmama Sat 11-May-13 17:21:36

I've only been away from the Uk (in Dubai) since Dec and I'be been very homesick since arriving. I miss my friends and social life a lot, going to Ikea helps as it feels like being back in the UK lol!

WhataSook Fri 10-May-13 21:36:41

I got proper homesick once DD was born, being in the UK and no one to share her with.

I get it a little bad at Christmas time too when it should be warm and instead its bloody cold and miserable...still. grin

Salbertina Fri 10-May-13 04:33:06

Pofaced- with you on the sobbing there! Ditto the scary woods (scrubland, even back garden!) - sometimes turfing kids out to play Ii am a Little nervous due to resident snakes & scorpions, yes, takes the edge off rather...

Miss sweet smell freshly cut grass! Culture, indian food, public transport, bring able to walk freely, feeling safe

pofacedlemonsucker Fri 10-May-13 04:14:09

I sobbed my way through the Olympics opening ceremony.

Other than that, I'm not too bad. Weirdly , I mostly miss crappy British beach holidays and mooching in the woods with the dogs. This is mostly weird because I live in the Canadian Rockies, and there are plenty of woods to mooch in. I'm always on the lookout for wild stuff with teeth and claws though - it's just not possible to let the dogs run off and explore for fear of what they will bring back with them... It makes it a less relaxing affair!

mirai Fri 10-May-13 04:03:33

Ok Tante I agree! Come and find me on the other thread I don't want to carry on moaning here!

Big love going to thumb too, I know exactly what you meant about the jubilee and t'olympics!

Thumbwitch Fri 10-May-13 04:00:55

xpost - waves to Tante! All clear in your neck of the woods now, is it? no more fall out or projected problems?

Mirai - are you in Japan as well? I do recommend meeting up - seeing other expats in Sydney has really improved my outlook here, as well as being useful for fact-finding on things like maternity care!

Thumbwitch Fri 10-May-13 03:59:23

Note - DIAMOND jubilee, people, far more impressive than the Golden one! grin
And yet, despite the Queen being nominal head of state here as well, it was largely ignored here. People in shops that should have been stocking stuff for parties didn't even know it was happening sad .
That made me homesick; as did watching the road cycle race in the Olympics, and the rowing at Dorney Water (both in my old stamping area). I got really pissed off with the Aussie coverage of the Olympics as well - not because they covered the Australians, that wasn't an issue - it was the amount of time they devoted to things like bloody basketball, waterpolo and other events that, often, they weren't even in . Thank God for iPlayer!

TanteRose Fri 10-May-13 03:57:30

x-posts

OK mirai - we have GOT to have a proper meet-up grin

can't have you feeling sad - you need wine with other MNers!!

TanteRose Fri 10-May-13 03:55:00

oh dear sad

{{hugs for mirai and thumb}}

mirai - I did a very quick trip back to meet up with family in France last autumn. Four days - it was sooo worth it smile have fun!

I have been abroad for 22 years now, and don't really feel homesick, BUT my siblings have finally started their families and I have nephews and nieces that I would love to spend more time with.
Also want to be able to just pop round my sisters etc for a chat - Skype is really not the same...

Thumbwitch Fri 10-May-13 03:54:25

Oh yes, Christmas is a bitch. I miss the dark evenings, the Christmas lights in the streets, all the shops having trees/lights - here we get nothing in the street, most shops will have a small fake tree inside but nothing outside, and of course it's bloody hot! We have to wait until gone 9pm to go round and see house lights at their best, and not as many people here bother as where I used to live in the UK.

One day I will take the boys back at Christmas, so they can see it in all its glory. Then they can whinge about it too grin

mirai Fri 10-May-13 03:49:59

I also miss having friends. DH and I are the only foreigners around for miles; it's about a 3 hour journey to the nearest English speaker!

So, if I have a row with DH (thankfully not that common), or I just fancy having some girl talk with someone, or I just want someone else to talk to (as much as I love DH!), it just won't happen. I have no one else here apart from DH.

You could ask why I don't go home but the work is secure and we need to save for a house. (Although the exchange rate is vaporising our worth but that's a different thread).

Thumbwitch Fri 10-May-13 03:47:45

Comes in waves. Mostly when it's too fucking hot to move without breaking into a massive sweat sad
But also I had it badly when I got back from visiting people in the UK 2 weeks ago - I'm still not quite over it now. It was so nice, the weather there was lovely while we were there, and showing off DS2 (6mo) to all my friends and relatives was great. Coming back, not so much. sad
It will pass again and I'll get re-immersed into Aussie life, as usual - but every now and then it will come back.

mirai Fri 10-May-13 03:44:48

I miss the seasons that don't get too hot or too cold.

I desperately, desperately miss my friends. They're all getting engaged/married/pregnant/significant birthdays and I am missing far too many celebrations.

I miss straight talking, sarcasm, being open and blunt with feelings and not having to watch every little thing I say or do in case the neighbours/colleagues see/hear/care.

I miss my dad. My mum has visited once but it's a 15 hour plane journey and my dad can't fly. I am going home for three days in June (15hrs each way I must be mad), and after that I won't see my darling dad again until Christmas 2014. sad DH asked me at the weekend if, instead of the UK that Christmas, could we go to Australia instead? There weren't enough hmm faces in the world for me to express how I felt and what I said to him then! He isn't that close to his family but I miss my parents every bloody day.

Great I'm at work now with tears in my eyes sad

WhoDat Fri 10-May-13 03:29:05

I get the Times on my iPad, it's same price and is wonderful (app is Times of London). I love it here (New Orleans), here nearly three years but like a lot of you haven't lived at home in Dublin for a long time. I do miss how cosy it is at Christmas, and I pine a bit knowing my close friends are out doing boozy lunches and drinks etc. My parents were with us for it this year and I hope they'll do it again. Kids are still believers so it's lovely to share it with them. Apart from that happy as a clam. Good friends, great social life, good school, great medical care. Occasional hurricane to be fair but you deal with that with a lot of this wine

My good friends are still my good friends wherever they are, and I put a lot of effort into keeping it that way. I have been horribly homesick in the past though and I do feel for you guys who are. There was open very rough patch in when I lived in Oz (pre DH) and it felt an awfully long way from home then sad

howdoo Fri 10-May-13 01:56:20

Also agree with LittleMissLucy, DH and DCs are sort of more "important" than if I was at home.

And am definitely in that "don't properly fit in anywhere" thing that is the fate of the long term expat. Which is why you need lovely non judgmental friends in both places.

howdoo Fri 10-May-13 01:52:07

I've been here (in the US) for five years now, and this thread has made me realise that I'm not really homesick any more, but blimey, I was (on and off) dreadfully unhappy for the first two or three years. For me, it's all about friends (am not particularly close to family) - I now have some lovely friends here. Also the friends in the UK have definitely gone one way or the other - I had two bridesmaids, one I don't talk to that often and TBH it is always me who calls, but I know she loves me and I am still her best friend. The other never calls and I know I am not that high on her list any more if you like and that hurts. Other UK friends, weirdly, I have got closer to. I appreciate good kind friends (over fun fairweather friends) so much more.

MoelFammau Fri 10-May-13 01:28:24

I lived in Germany for nearly 3 years and wasn't ever homesick. Frustrated sometimes, yes. But never ever homesick. I'd move abroad again in a heartbeat.

LittleMissLucy Wed 08-May-13 05:12:12

I don't feel homesick because I live at home (with my DH and DCs) - it doesn't matter where we are geographically.

Deutschmum Tue 07-May-13 20:54:46

Does anyone still watch this thread? I get homesick when I say goodbye to visitors... I guess the highs don't come without the lows. I also freak out that my son needs a second language for nursery school when he's three.... Putting myself in a foreign place is one thing but my ds??! Anyone done this?

Nancy54 Wed 13-Mar-13 19:02:14

Having children has made me want to go home. I'd been in France for eight years before having my twins in September but since they e been born, I ve feel like a longing to move back home!! Hoping it will pass as dp not too keen on the idea...

melbie Fri 08-Mar-13 10:47:53

Never weirdly. Although I vaguely miss being able to wear jumpers more. It occasionally is cold enough here but never coat/scarf/hat cold. But that is usually a fleeting 30 seconds thought and then I remember the fact I can swim in the sea for 6 months of the year plus and life is good again!

Jo2508 Wed 06-Mar-13 11:05:27

I am about to move back to the UK and I am worried about being homesick for where I've been living for the last 6 years!
I've lived abroad most of my life, in various different countries, and didn't grow up in England but have lived there for a few years at a time over the last 20 years. When I'm living abroad, the things I miss about England are country pubs, Sunday papers, festivals, my old friends, and those stunning summer evenings you sometimes get...

Thanks for the replies. It's a comfort to know I'm not the only one. YY to the Olympic ceremony weepathon. I fell apart watching that and still well up now. If I'd been back in the UK I'd have been proud but not hysterically sobbing!

bigbadbarry Tue 05-Mar-13 18:10:20

I'm back in the UK now but I used to get homesick when something apparently trivial was just so difficult. I remember crying real tears because I couldn't use my DVD player!

MrsMarigold Tue 05-Mar-13 18:07:35

I grew up somewhere else and I really find Christmas hard, it just doesn't feel like Christmas.

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