We weren't that close but I feel really upset, more upset than I'm entitled to be. I don't know what type it is but apparently it wasn't there 2 months ago but is now the size of a golf ball. He can't have it removed as there's too much risk of brain damage so he's starting radiotherapy in a week or so.
He's showing symptoms similar to a stroke, his face is drooping, he dribbles & gets confused and he can't walk very well. We live locally to him & my dad (his brother) said he'd like to see us. Obviously I'll go but I have 2 small boys & am worried they'll be too much. I'm also (selfishly) worried about getting upset when I see him & showing it (which he would hate).
I feel like I have no right to be upset, if that makes sense. I just don't know how to deal with this.
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Life-limiting illness
My uncle has a terminal brain tumour.
MyGastIsFlabbered · 07/06/2014 17:05
You are totally entitled, OP. Sometimes we just don't know how we feel until we feel it, iyswim - and right now, you sound scared and shocked as well as upset. Not surprisingly. You may not have been close, but he is still your uncle, and probably was part of your childhood in some way, and it changes us when people from our childhood get sick and die...so try and ease up on yourself 
If your boys are very little, they might be confused but I doubt they'll be very much affected or upset unless they see you very upset - small kids tend to pick up on our feelings more than anything. Can you visit without them, the first time at least? Or take someone else too, so the boys can say hello and maybe give him a card or something, then go off to play while you visit?
Of course you have a right to be upset. I'm so sorry to hear he's so unwell 
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