My father has a terminal cancer diagnosis and is starting to feel really poorly. He has mobility issues anyway but has had a fall and is now bedbound.
The prognosis given to him about 9 weeks ago was for 3 months.
He can't stay at home because he needs 24-hour nursing care now, really. He was previously in an intermediate care place but since these are primarily for rehab it's not really appropriate for him to be there. He is currently in hospital because he has some issues with kidney function (probably not helped because he isn't eating and has type II diabetes). They are talking about where to "put" him. A suggestion of a local nursing home has been made, and they have a bed available, but they are saying they don't think they have enough staff to look after him.
The hospice have said that they don't want him yet. I'm a bit disappointed with the hospice, actually, because initially we were told that there were all sorts of services we could access (both for my father and for us, such as day care, bereavement counselling etc) but it now seems that there is nothing that they are prepared to offer.
He feels that he is a burden to everyone and that everyone just wants rid of him - understandably, I would say.
Who should I be talking to to get some kind of sensible advice re: next steps? He's in limbo at the moment. I feel terrible for him.
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Life-limiting illness
Don't know how I can help. Any ideas, please?
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ChineseFireball · 03/01/2014 18:50
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