A friend of a friend is ill with cancer and is starting treatment again soon - she had been in remission.
We started chatting yesterday for the first time and after a lull in conversation, I said to her that I had heard she was ill and that I was very sorry to hear it. Conversation continued and she said that it was fine that I knew and that she is open about it, but that she does not know where I would have heard it from. We talked about things in general and about my work etc and towards the ends of the conversation I offered to take her kids to and from school if she needed help. The conversation was friendly and went on for some time.
I am now feeling very guilty that I brought up her illness myself. I think I did it to make me feel more comfortable being with her, and that because of this what I said was wrong.
Did I do the wrong thing? Should I have kept my mouth shut? I also feel dreadful because I remembered later that the person who had told me had told me in confidence. I should just staple my fucking mouth shut, I think.
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Life-limiting illness
Did I say the wrong thing to a woman whom I know is ill?
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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 02/03/2013 13:09
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