I think maybe I just need to type this all out & this is the best place... I live on a small island, my dad has been diagnosed with cancer they can't operate on but can treat with chemo & radio therapy at the same time, but not here.. he goes across to start treatment on monday at the nearest hospital that can do it. If the treatment doesnt work he has 6 - 9 months.. we don't know if it has worked until after the treatment has finished in january, it doesnt look great at the moment. My mum is spending alot of time with him, I am flying over once a week and my sister who lives on the mainland will also be visiting regularly.
My questions are
- how the fuck do I keep normal family life for my DD's aged 4 &6 going on as normal
- what the fuck do I do about xmas, the kids can't see my dad (infection risk) do I spend it with them & choose to miss quite possibly my dads last xmas, or do I totally upset and disappoint my dd's who have to do xmas without mummy - i can't do both
- how the fuck do i keep my sanity & carry on normal daily life etc
please excuse the language, I dont normally swear but I couldnt think of a better way to put stuff
I'd really appreciate any help and advice other MN have