Maltesers - I have been in this situation fwiw (low income, single parent) but I have never had the attitude that I cannot work more hours in order not to affect my benefits. I worked more hours in order to develop skills and get a better job in order to get off benefits.

I do not understand you anger with your XP tbh. You knew the money was going to stop at some point.

<faints>

Yes, I swore - woe is me and my vocabulary. Don't worry though sweetie, you won't need grammar for flipping burgers!

All sounds a bit odd to me.

I would take the chance to negotiate some ground rules with DD and explain that she will have to contribute for her bed and board while at home, regardless if she is getting the maintenence money direct she will have other money she will have to take control of and budget with. I know it is hard but I would try to look at this as a positive thing and sit her down and look at get her to look at her finances now that she is a fully fledged adult, and as a adult she has to accept the responsibilities that adult hood bring.

I think going to the CSA over this is a very, very, very bad idea.

And you really need to get more hours at work or another side job if your boyfriend is also unemployed.

oooohhh dear....lack of vocabulary SKIHORSE, there is no need to swear !! so disgustingly common....

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On the other hand, it could just be down to a misunderstanding about which end of the summer holiday maintenance should be paid until.
If this is simply the case, I'm not surprised going at him all guns blazing isn't provoking as prompt a response as you expect.

maltesers - you need to inform both XP/XH & DD that maintenance needs to be paid via you for the last 6 weeks, otherwise:

1. DD will be charged it in rent & keep.
If she refuses to pay up, you can refuse to do anything else for her in return, including keeping a roof over her head!
It's not her fault XH has changed the arrangement but she doesn't have to play along.

OR

2. the CSA will be informed.
Whatever he's paying to DD may well be counted as "pocket money" and he also may well end up having to cough up twice.

Either way, from DD's first day of term, he's not legally obliged to pay anything so if he will be, give him credit for that at least.

Whatever's happened in the past, for your own sake, please try to give up the bitterness you've harboured over his income for however many years - it's clearly not doing you any good.