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gparents not sticking to court order. where do i stand?

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DragonFlyx · 20/08/2014 14:22

I was dragged to court by my other halfs father as he hadn't seen my daughter due to the horrible things he said about her before she was born, never bothering to contact once she had been born and all of a sudden, he. Wanted to see her. He caused alot of strain to mine and ohs relationship, would lie to split us, even accused me of cheating at one stage.

I felt like no one would listen to my reasons why contact shouldn't be made, I felt he wouldn't keep at it, Ifelt it was another way he could try to part me and his son, and it wouldn't benefit my daughter, she has a large family.

Anyways, iv stool to my side, iv made sure to book time off work once a month for him to come see her. But lately every time I book the time off and arrange with him, he's always too busy with petty things like nights out, the occasions he does come round, he makes it clear it's an inconvenience to his plans and he makes me feel awkward in my own home and my daughter doesn't like him either. She shows abit of interest when he's bought her round a present but the attention is short lived and she spends most of the time clinging to me.

I'm feeling frustrated that I have to continue to stick to booking time off work, to change plans for him to be too busy to do what he spent God knows what on going to court..

Does anyone know where I stand? can I get the order lifted at all?

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Medibeagle · 23/08/2014 15:31

Is he the grandfather of your daughter?

I'm sorry you are having a hard time.

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RandomMess · 23/08/2014 18:20

So there is a court order which means you have to make your dd available for him to visit but he's not turning up/cancelling?

I would think you could go back to court yourself and ask for it to be amendmend. How ofter is he supposed to visit and how often does he cancel?

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GoblinLittleOwl · 23/08/2014 18:46

I didn't think Grandparents could get court orders for visiting rights?

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amyhamster · 23/08/2014 18:49

Are you still with his son ?

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Medibeagle · 23/08/2014 19:50

Keep lots of records, if you are able make arrangements by email and reply commenting on him letting you down.

I'm sure people with more experience will be along soon to advise.

I don't think you should have to take time off work for this, is there not a time that is mutually convenient? Why is his son not arranging anything?

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Greengrow · 23/08/2014 20:33

Are you in England?

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DragonFlyx · 26/08/2014 11:13

Still with son, our work times clash so it's left to me to arrange time off. He won't talkto me directly and does it through his son. It's so frustrating. I'm being made to feel like the bad one, I'm accused of having awkward days off although he's given 2-3 weeks notice and cancels on the day or a couple of days before... It's meant to be once a month but he seems to struggle to do that one day!

And they can get orders if they can prove themselves to be a benefit to the child's life. Hes seen her twice in 7 months.

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hiddenhome · 26/08/2014 11:36

I don't think grandparent court orders are really enforceable anyway.

If he takes you back to court, just demonstrate that you made an effort and he wasn't interested. What are they going to do? They have a hard enough time enforcing court orders between parents.

He sounds like a total prick.

Get your dh to speak to him and sort all this out in the future.

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