DSD (9) spilled a lot about what's being going on at her dad's house yesterday. He's been emotionally and financially abusive to my DP (we're gay) for years, but it's got worse recently - emails to the school, to her mum, to every kind of authority about what a neglectful parent she is (we have loads of evidence to show we're good parents)
DSD is feeling like everyone is OK when she's at our house and that her mum is a bad person when she's with her dad. We have to 'deprogram' them every time they come home from his house as they're defiant and constantly attacking my DS. He has told the children never to tell me or their mum anything about what he says or does with them. Last weekend he tried to force his way into our house in front of the children to argue with DP (police are doing him for criminal damage).
DSD says now that he has told her that if my DS (8) ever hurts her he will keep her at his house and not return her home to keep her safe. My DS has autism, but the children have battles and get along as any other siblings would as they've been close for the last four years. I can't understand why he's only threatening to take one child, not his DS (6), though he only has one spare room.
Can anyone tell me how the law would view it if he were to take DSD? Would she be returned home? She's very easily manipulated into saying whatever as she has Aspergers herself. Should we be trying to get a residence order pre-emptively? At the moment he has them every other w/e and up to half the holidays (though it's less as he doesn't take time off work)
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Can child's father just refuse to return her after a visit?
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ShoreCrab · 18/08/2014 15:32
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