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my world has fallen apart

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:15

I had to call the police last night and report my dad as my daughter told her aunty that he has been abusing her, i just feel so lost right now and don't know what to do, think, feel or say.

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NotInMyDay · 08/05/2013 19:19

Oh good Lord I can't imagine what you must be feeling. Good for you for not turning a blind eye. Here to hold your hand.

Have you had contact with your dad?

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oopsadaisymaisy · 08/05/2013 19:20

What a truly horrendous thing to have to deal with. I can't imagine what you must be going through. I'm afraid I don't have a legal background so can't offer any advice. I'm sure someone will come along soon with some valuable support. I hope you have real life folk available to get you through this awful time.

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ParsingFancy · 08/05/2013 19:21

Oh dear lord. I'm so sorry, Emz8369.

Holding your hand.

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Nat38 · 08/05/2013 19:21

Oh My God!!Shock I should imagine what you are feeling is pretty normalHmm
I have no advice for you, I couldnt read & run<img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Sad" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/assets/images/mumsnet-emojis/base/sad.png"><br /> Im sure some one will be along to offer some good advice.
Just want to give you & your DD a huge hug.

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nilbyname · 08/05/2013 19:24

Oh fuck.

First of all you have DONE THE RIGHT THING. Your DD told someone, and you acted upon that information. It took courage and you did it. Flowers

Now you will be in all sorts of emotional states...if I were in your shoes I would be inclined to tell the HT of your DDs school and see if they can put you in touch with a SWorker for help and support. You will have all sorts of questions and they will be able to help you. The HT will be the named child protection person in the school and will treat your disclosure with the utmost trust and confidentiality.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Is there anyone in RL you can talk to?

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Messandmayhem · 08/05/2013 19:41

No advice but I'm holding your hand too.

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:49

No i havent been in touch with him since i found out and never want to talk to him again

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:51

maisy thanks and yeah i have my sister here with me

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:52

Thanks ParsingFancy

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:53

Thanks Nat38

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monkeyfacegrace · 08/05/2013 19:55

Jesus fucking christ.

Biggest respect ever for believing your dd and calling police.

All the best, lots of love to you all.

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:55

nilbyname the school know and have said if ever she needs time out she just needs to say, the police have said she will probably have a social worker

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:56

Thanks, Messandmayhem

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:58

Thanks, Messandmayhem

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:59

Thanks monkeyfacegrace not believing her wasnt an option tbh

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ParsingFancy · 08/05/2013 20:01

So glad you have your sister with you.

Sadly, lots of people on MN have been through one part or the other of similar situations. I hope you'll find lots of support and strength here. Do keep posting, if it helps.

(Btw, you may also find more support in Relationships rather than Legal Matters. Some people don't read all the different sections.)

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CoffeePleaseSir · 08/05/2013 20:02

Hand holding Hmm
Well done op for reporting it, I can't imagine the emotions you must be feeling x

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nilbyname · 08/05/2013 20:08

Is your mum in the picture at all? How about dds father?

Your sister and you must be in pieces. Just horrible.

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AdoraBell · 08/05/2013 20:09

Hand holding from here too. And well done for acting as you did, some people deny it to themselves and so refuse to beleive what they are hearing, because it's beyond horrendous.

The police will be able to help you. And remember, whatever anyone might say in RL, your DD has done nothing wrong and neither have you. Neither one of you has got your father into trouble, he did that himself.

Be strong and take care of you and DD

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Branleuse · 08/05/2013 20:15

big love to you and your dd xx

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 20:26

Thanks CoffeePleaseSir

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 20:28

Yeah nilbyname my mum is in the my dds dad however hasnt seen her since she was 4 weeks old and she is now 10

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cjel · 08/05/2013 20:29

this is a nightmare for you . i hope you get all love and support you needxxx

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 20:29

Thanks AdoraBell

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 20:30

Thanks *Branleuse

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