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Photos of dd made public - no consent given and im FUMING!!

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somethinghastogive Mon 29-Apr-13 22:15:37

Hi.
Can anyone advise of what legal action i can take, if any?
DH was best man at a wedding of his best friend from school days. Bride to be and i dont get along. Myselfand dd still went as dh wanted us there. The photos have been made public without us knowing content. Just looked at them and during the wedding bride has taken our daughter off and had photos taken with her. Our daughter is 3. I am soooo angry. Can i do anything about this? Both my dh and i gave NO permission for pic's to be taken of our dd and she at no point asked our permission.
Thankyou in advance.

Sheshelob Mon 29-Apr-13 22:42:42

Oooh, Freddie. I take it that the date was a raging success wondering if he looked like JD at all and starting to feel jealous

My hangover was god awful. And I didn't even drink that much. I think it was the shame.

EuroShaggleton Mon 29-Apr-13 22:43:01

If there's a reason why you are so bothered (adoption, dv) then ask for them to be taken down. Otherwise, stop being so silly.

seeker Mon 29-Apr-13 22:43:31

Why are you so angry about it?

I am sorry that your DD had a stroke and I hope she is recovering well, but that is relevant to photos online how exactly? Or am I thick?

GiveMumABreak Mon 29-Apr-13 22:44:28

If you feel so strongly about her photo going up on any sites you should have taken care not to let her be photographed at the wedding ( had a word with bride and groom and possibly photographer) it is a given that guests are photographed at weddings. YABU. You probably wouldn't feel this strongly about it if it wasn't done by a woman you dislike. You will appear completely unreasonable if you make a scene about this now. Let it go. Learn from this and don't let it happen again, you'll know better next time.

And so you should be ashamed Shes. JD indeed. Humph. it was fab and I'm seeing him again

AngiBolen Mon 29-Apr-13 22:45:04

I think these days you have to expect if you are at a wedding photos may be taken of you and your DC which may well end up on-line.

If this is something you are not comfortable with, then you need to let it be not to the hosts again before the event. I can imagine being busy with a wedding/excited about the photos means they have forgotten your personal preference.

How did you not notice your DD going off with the bride? confused

Giving no permission to having photos taken is very different to formally requesting no photo of your child is published.

Sheshelob Mon 29-Apr-13 22:45:25

Your DD had a stroke? So sorry to hear that.

somethinghastogive Mon 29-Apr-13 22:46:41

Thankyou Yika that's all i was asking. I am angry, as the bride and i dont get along, she published photos of her and dd without asking. It is in her nature to do such a thing and why i dont like her.

Cloverer Mon 29-Apr-13 22:47:06

I don't think it is possible to insist that no photos are ever taken of your child - anyone could take a picture of her on the street or beach or in a park and publish it online if they wanted.

doublecakeplease Mon 29-Apr-13 22:47:22

I must be missing something - really can't see the issue to be fuming about. Photos are taken at weddings and as long as there are no adoption / ss reasons then i can't understand what possible harm would come of it?!

mercibucket Mon 29-Apr-13 22:48:29

Massive massive massive massive massive over-reaction

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou Mon 29-Apr-13 22:49:13

It's in most peoples nature to show their friends pictures of their wedding. Thats one of the things about being social animals (as in living in social groups, not as in party animal)

Sirzy Mon 29-Apr-13 22:49:48

Your relationship with the bride should be irrelevant though.

To be talking about legal action when you haven't even bothered to speak to them about it is down right daft!

MephistophelesSister Mon 29-Apr-13 22:51:27

Sheshelob - I think you are right, but I know from personal experience that if people don't understand your reluctance they will often either ignore your request or try to do it without your knowledge. Sooooo frustrating to have your judgement questioned, when there are many (perfectly valid) reasons to be careful about images of children online.

Perhaps I am self-projecting though. I have my own reasons for keeping my little ones 'under wraps', and despite knowing the reasons, even close family try and sneak the odd photo past. Grrrrrr.

Definitely a polite request in the first instance, in any case.

Plenty of time to get angry later if it is refused!

Sheshelob Mon 29-Apr-13 22:52:04

Ooh. Can I live vicariously through your exciting young love life? I remember dating...

<stares into the middle distance, trying to remember how to bogle>

Backinbelfast Mon 29-Apr-13 22:52:09

Did you not want DD going off alone with the bride or is it the photos that are bothering you? I'm a bit confused.

olivertheoctopus Mon 29-Apr-13 22:52:48

Sounds a tad precious to me. I don't understand the whole 'we don't allow photos of our kids on FB etc'. Stick them in masks every time you go out like Michael Jackson did if it makes you feel better.

If it's that big of a deal why in the name of the wee man would you take the child to a wedding? Especially one where the bride has "form" and you don't like her?

Picturesinthefirelight Mon 29-Apr-13 22:53:21

What Yika said is not correct legally although I suspect there is done sort of copyright with regards to making money from a subjects image.

PinkPanther27 Mon 29-Apr-13 22:53:22

I can understand why you'd be upset. I work in child protection and wouldn't want my children's photographs posted on the internet for all to see and access. As u don't get on, can your husband ask nicely and explain why?

Sheshelob Mon 29-Apr-13 22:54:04

That was to Freddie, Meph, in case you thought I'd gone mad.

CabbageLeaves Mon 29-Apr-13 22:54:29

Some cultures believe cameras steal your soul don't they? Don't think that is the issue here somehow...

This is about power and control OP. Is it really worth going to the wedding because DH wanted you there and then having a massive over reaction to wedding photos with your child in?

You'd have been better off refusing to go rather than doing this

You're thanking Yika because she's said what you want to hear. Unfortunately it's wrong. See my earlier post - anyone can take photos of anyone else and publish them where they like for non-commercial purposes. It's courteous to ask, but that's all it is. A courtesy.

CabbageLeaves Mon 29-Apr-13 22:56:05

Pink Panther what exact risk do you think a child's photograph poses, considering most CP issues involve family rather than strangers?

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