Can an adult adoptee have their adoption reversed?

[discotequewreck]

Would it go to court? Be costly?

[mumblechum1]

No.

[mumblechum1]

I mean no of course it can't be reversed

[RedHelenB]

No, but they don't need to speak or have anything to do with their adoptive parents if they don't want to.

[discotequewreck]

Why the mumblechum especially as you don't know the circumstances.

I would have thought you could nullify it somehow, much like a divorce, so that they can no longer be considered my legal parents. I want my birth mother to resume as my mother symbolically as she has passed away. I also have suspicions she was unduly influenced into the adoption.

Oh and my adoptive parents abused me.

[RoomForASmallOne]

If it's not something you can do as a legality, could you have some kind of symbolic ceremony??

Like people renew vows...you could renege/renounce your adoption and (symbolically) renew your relationship with your birth mother.

[pollypandemonium]

There are lots of other things you can do legally, such as setting up your own powers of attorney in case something happens to you which means that your APs have no say in your care or your money. As it stands they are probably next of kin unless you have adult children. You can also make your Will and stipulate what happens after your death.

I think RoomFor's idea about having a symbolic ceremony is also a good idea.

[discotequewreck]

I am married now, so dh is next of kin and my name has changed anyway.

It is also the fact they are legally my kid's grandparents that I don't like.

Oh well, will take on board some of the nice advice here thanks.

I am just not convinced my adoption was legally sound in the first place.

[discotequewreck]

Could you explain Polly the powers of attorney idea thanks

[pollypandemonium]

www.gov.uk/power-of-attorney/overview

It enables you to decide exactly what happens to you if you are incapacitated. There is a separate one that determines what happens to your money or property.

[Lilka]

There isn't any legal way to void an adoption, except very soon after it is first finalised (if the birth parents can prove illegalities in the process or that they were coerced into consenting). However you are now many years down the line and your birth mother is dead so it would impossible to do that now. Even if it were possible to do it, it's actually pretty difficult to prove coercion. You would need solid proof of serious psychological pressure/outright blackmail in order to do it.

So the way forwards legally is to find ways of cutting yourself off from your adoptive parents. Make sure you have a will to dictate exactly what happens to all your money and posessions after death. Is there a way to tell the medical profession that you do not wish your parents to be contacted in the event of an emergency, even if they can't reach you husband or children?