Hi all
I'm really hoping someone can give me a bit of advice before I have to speak to the hospital tomorrow.
I'll try and keep it brief but will need to explain background a bit.
My FIL is 83 and lives at home with my MIL, he's been suffering falls on and off and on the 4th Nov, he fell over and broke his hip, he was admitted to hospital and had a hip replacement, five weeks in as he was slowly getting back on his feet, for some reason at 5 am one morning he got out of bed and fell, resulting in the other hip breaking. He had another replacement and was back on the ward under one to one care due to the previous fall, he was also diagnosed with dementia at this time. He was now very nervous on his feet and generally unable to walk any distances at all, just transfer himself from bed to chair. Around 5am a few weeks ago the individual on one to one observations left my FIL and he fell again, now breaking his wrist (there is a complaint in about this). He's now unable to walk, move from chair to bed and is incontinent nearly all the time, and has to be helped to do everything.
My MIL has realised as much as she wants him home she cannot watch him 24 hours a day and lives in a house with steps to each room and only an upstairs toilet (he does have a stairlift, but cannot work it on his own or get himself to it)
My SIL found a nursing home literally two mins from my MIL's house which is perfect, we assumed as FIL had a lot of savings we would not be eligible for any help and reserved him a place, and he's going to be discharged on Thurs to it. After going to the bank it turns out that most of the savings (over 40K) are in MIL's name, and FIL has approx 17k. SIL rang the hospital and explained, to be told that they hadn't assessed him for needing care home, only carers at home and it would take a while to get him reassessed, my MIL got distressed and has now gifted my FIL £10k so he can still keep the nursing home slot.
I'm now concerned that we are making a rod for our own back, and think we should force the hospital to reassess him for nursing home (which doesn't sound like it's been done) and if it delays it a couple of weeks then we just pay for the spot at the nursing home to be kept open.
So as SIL has sorted this and now realised she might have been hasty it;s left to me to sort tomorrow morning, can I actually refuse discharge until the Community Care plan is sorted and communicated to us in writing.?!?
Help anyone there are probably so many things we are missing or I'm doing wrong.
I am arranging to see solicitors and financial advisers with MIL late this week early next, I just am concerned once he's discharged it will be a lot harder to get everything we need from social services once he's already gone and freed a bed up.
Many thanks if you are still with me, I really do appreciate any advice :)
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Urgent help please! FIL Discharge from hospital and nursing home
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ratbagcatbag · 29/01/2013 21:19
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