My little one is 18 months, for the past 10 months my sons father has been in his life. in 10 months ive had 12 excuses not to take him or drop him off leaving it to his parents or siblings. Since october he hasnt provided or paid a penny of maintenece for my son. Leaving me to buy everything clothes, food the lot.
Being a soul provider doesnt bother me infact im proud but when someone takes the piss out of me thats when it bothers me. In 10 months ive had 2 different lawyers the first 1 was useless and didnt listen to me but she was spot on with dates and times even phoned me the day before to make sure i could make it to court.
Yesterday i had a hearing, my current solicitor told me last friday it was 15th march, no time, i assumed a time it has always been since hearing have been taken place. Anyway yesterday at 1 i go to court, and was informed off a receptionist it was at 11 that morning, go straight to my solictor, and find out why she hadn't phoned me or at least leave a voicemail, apparently shes had a wrong number - a number ive had for 2 years and shes had no trouble phoning or emailing me. So obvously i wasnt too pleased, i got her secretary who said she would call me, now today still waiting on the call phoned the office 5 times, to get told the same il get her to phone u with the worst attitude, i speak to clients over the telephone and if i done that im my job id get my knuckles wrapped! 29 hours later - 5 phone calls my lawyer decides to phone me. I didnt know what had happened and basically i do have a right to know what has happened, the reason why i was going to court because they arent listening to what my son needs. For example my son goes to over night every 3 weeks and when he comes back hes out his routine for 3 weeks so would be pointless having him in a routine that he should be in, any considerate person would understand this having children. Also with the fact no maintence has been paid since october even though his dad has been working, he doesnt so much buy him clothes. I have been in contact with CSA who are as useful as a chocolate teapot. When i first got in contact they were great told me if i dont get a payment in a certain amount of time they will force the dad to pay, take him to court... The usual script they read off. Have they done this? No!
So my patients had went because i was the one constantly phoning to get an update when she should have phoned me yesterday after 1.30. 5th call the secretary said "oh i was going to phone u, she wants me to up date u that it has been continued to may i dont know the time" i actually burst out laughing at this as i got told this yesterday when i was in court and i said "look ive been phoning u lot since 9 this morning, i even told u yesterday, i wanted an update of what happened in court, as i dont know ANYTHING!!"
6th time i would have been told "ill get her to phone u!"
At 5.30 i was literally screaming down the phone to my solicitor as she hadnt listened when i asked her what did she say about maintence and my sons routine, her answer was i didnt mention it - even though i said to her on friday! Joke or what?!! She even said i dont know when ur overnight is u tell me?! U were in court yesterday not me! It was the worst possible attitude ive heard from any human being, apparently over night is tomorrow when ive planned to go away sunday morning with my son! Thats me out of pocket with train tickets to down south. her answer to that u will be jailed. I think courts need to get there priorities sorted, i think thats absolutely disgraceful, i will be jailed to refuse overnight even though ive hadthis planned for months. This is all because my solicitor is incompetant and cant follow up on anything! Safe to say i did say to my solicitor she will no longer be my solicitor she is an absolute disgrace. I work all the hours i can, have my son in daycare and manage to scrape by the reason why i was going away was to clear my head because courts stressed me out to the point my GP wants to sign me off with depression and stress but i cant afford to.
I really dont know what to do anymore can someone give me better advice than my solicitor? Im actually tempted to act on my own behalf in court now.
When will a court hear my point of view than granting his feckless dad everything?
Personally I honestly think solicitors and feckless dads should be named and shamed
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babycc29x · 16/03/2012 19:38
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