I am a single mum with a 2 year old child, from an abusive alcoholic man. We were never married and never lived together. Since my child was born, I have tried to keep the man away, due to his drinking and abuse. He was never interested in our child, only in me. But he would make threats about our child to make me compliant.
Over the past two years I have been subjected to all manner of abuse, and when I don't let him in to my home, he stalks me and harrasses me by phone, email, and post. Finally, he applied for a contact order, when I stopped giving in to him. The problem is that he is a lawyer, who works in family law.
At the first hearing I was forced to agree to contact, despite my complaints of domestic abuse, alcoholism and injuries to my child. My barrister told me that I had no choice but to agree.
Since then, my ex has continued harrassing and stalking me. He is under a non-molestation order and the Police are considering prosecution. Social services have been involved throughout, and have serious concerns.
Cafcas have done their report, they express concerns about the drinking, and the effects of it on our child. But at the same time they advise increasing contact. They made no attempt to contact any of the social workers, police officers or anyone else. They seem to believe that it is a case of '6 of one and half a dozen of the other'. My solicitor tells me it is my word against his.
What am I to do? My solicitor and barrister both tell me that if I don't agree to increasing contact, then the court may make an order against me (in fact, they told me I could go to jail!).
Without any proper assessment or investigation, without anyone speaking with any of my witnesses, social worker, police, etc. I am supposed to go to court next week and agree to allow my child to spend unsupervised time with this abusive, alcoholic man, who is on a non-molestation order, under police investigation for harrassment, and has only ever threatened my child if I ever left him.
What do I do? I feel totally unsupported by my solicitor, my barrister, and the court process - all of whom seem to think that because my ex is a lawyer, his decency and integrity can be assumed!
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somersdale · 15/03/2012 00:45
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