Hello there,
Im hoping someone out there may be experiencing similar circumstances to that of mine and my partner with issues relating to child contact, particularly that of taking the next step and going to court in order to get regular contact, Id be particularly grateful for information about how long, how expensive and what the outcome is? and if the order has to be adhered to once agreed.
Have you gone through this process? What happened in your case?
Ill start by giving you a little bit of information about our situation.
My partner of 7 years has twin boys who are 11 years old. He and his Ex Girlfriend parted when the boys were 3, and there has been an ongoing, escalating amount of difficulty when dealing with her since he left. This became a lot worse when he and I became a couple.
At first we had the boys regularly and I was beginning to form a relationship with them whilst also being careful about her feelings and trying not to over step the mark. For a short while things were not too bad and when we were left alone we were all getting along famously, but that was all a long time ago. After a couple of years when things broke down ( there was a lot of abusive emails and texts,difficult meetings and abuse when we picked up or dropped the boys off), she stopped contact between the boys and my partner, then she informed he she was moving to Cornwall (we live in London) and since they moved almost two years ago there has been very little contact and when there has been we are then subjected to emails, texts etc all of which are hurtful and very nasty. Of course there is a much longer story and there have been some very difficult scenes and scenarios as anyone who has experienced this might understand.
Each time we try to organise seeing the boys, the goal posts move, she refuses to do any of the driving, to meet half way etc. Its all causing a lot of stress and upset for my lovely partner who is a great Dad and misses seeing his boys. He provides very well for them financially and has been really reasonable with her even when faced with all the abuse.
We are now considering getting a court order, but we are concerned that it will be a long expensive and stressful process, which will be worth it if he gets to see the boys and try and repair what is becoming a non existent relationship.
But does she have to stick to whatever is agreed?
We'd be really glad to hear from you if you have experienced this and have taken court action and been through the process and maybe can offer some advice?
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Going to court for child contact. Has anyone had this experience recently?
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cardigangirl · 10/03/2012 17:58
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