Hi, this could turn long, please bear with me.
My Ex-P bought a house together in September 2006 after being together for over 6 years. We split in Nov 2007 but continued to live together until Jun 2009. The last 12 months of this we did not speak at all. We had a massive row about my new partner and he went mental. It was extremely stressul and brought on a number of illnesses including IBS and shortness of breath.
We have continued to pay 50/50 on the mortgage and life cover but I pay everything else including all insurances etc and have dealt with all breakages, upgrades, maintainence etc which seems only fair as I am living here and he is not.
My DP is now living here with me and we have a DS and I am currently on maternity leave due to return in September.
I received a text from ex 2 days after DS was born (great timing!) asking about a letter he said he sent about the house. I replied that I didn't know what post there was as I was in hospital and would be for the forseeable (another story).
I saw a solicitor as he had been talking about an occupation order and that he wanted to move back into the house as was his right. This sent me into a major panic, with slight return of the illnesses, hence seeing a solicitor. She said I was able to refuse him access to the property if I felt I wanted to, and he would have to get a court to grant an occupation order, but it would never be granted due to my DP and DS now linving here, and the toll it would take on my health.
I haven't heard from him since that last text. Until this morning. He said 'The solicitor has a few questions about the house. How much is remaing on the mortgage? how many people are living here and how long I have been co-habiting for?'.
He seems to think I have had lodgers. I did advertise a room to rent after he left, a girl moved in but left after 2 weeks. Then a friend had nowhere to go so she stayed for a while, and DPs brother worked here for a few weeks so he stayed too. Neither one of the last 2 paid any rent, so no issue there. DP does not pay me rent either, he puts money into an accoutn that I use for food and baby things.
I am shaking writing this, I feel sick.
Can I tell him to tell his solicitor to send me a letter for reponses? I don't want to offer up information to make his life easier, also, I have some doubts as to whether he even has a solicitor.
Can he force me to sell? Is there anything I need to do to arm myself with info?
Please help. I'm crying now.What a mess.
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ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 03/02/2012 13:16
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