I posted this in another part of the forum and was advised to post it here too. Can anyone advise me?
I'm worried sick. My ex physically and mentally abused me and my children while we were together. He carried on abusing the children once we separated during access visits. I stopped the children going.
My ex took me to court to get access again. He had supervised visits and he was the model father of course. He was granted unsupervised fortnightly visits. Now the abuse has started again.
I spoke to my Sons Social worker who was about as much use as a chocolate fireguard. I cant get a response from the solicitor despite several phone calls.
I know i'll be in contempt of the court order if I dont send them but my instincts say dont let them go. They are supposed to go tomorrow.
What shall I do?
Has anyone else experienced problems with an abusive ex?
I later added...
Thank you for all your replies.
I have now heard back from the solicitor. She has advised that I will be breaching the court order if I do not send them. However as I feel there is a safety issue she suggests notifying ex of my decision and she will apply to the court for a variation of the order.
My youngest children are 6 and 8. The 8 year old has special needs.
Believe me, I have been very active in reporting the abuse. He has been arrested and cautioned. I do not feel that enough weight is given to his actions by the authorities (cafcas, social services, courts) in terms of what happens while he has the children for access visits. Will they wait until the worst happens? I live in fear of getting a visit by police to tell me the worst news. I'm not exagerating. My son who has special needs gets the brunt of the abuse as ex doesn't understand him, and cant cope with him. There is no excuse for abuse.
He's a real pig, but a charming, influencial one. Everyone gets sucked in by his lies.
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Withdrawing Access to children due to ongoing physical and mental abuse.
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mumandthree3 · 27/01/2012 13:40
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