hello
i was hoping someone could give me some advice. my dp is going through a divorce and he has a dd with his ex. they ave been aprt for 3 years now.
There are a few issues that i would like guidance on (he has asked me to ask you all by the way so i am not sticking my nose in)
1)she is somewhat awkward regards to access to say the least and he has to fight to his dd. At the moment he sees her for one night a week every week but he woudl like to see her more. she flatly refuses saying that dd is too young (6 yrs old). ideally he woudl like to have her 2 nights a week. Dp does all the drop off and picks up at the moment when he does see his dd which is a 100 mile round trip as his ex refuses to meet him half way.
2) when he does pick or drop his dd off his ex gives him a very hard time, shouting and swearing at him (he had an affair) and uses all sorts of swear words that his dd is now repeating "my mummy says you are a bastard" etc.
3) he pays her well over the CSA recommended amount by a good £300 each month and he has also given her about £20k to help her get on her feet as a single mum which was their savings that they had built up over the period of their marriage. he even took out a loan to help buy her a car.
The trouble is that despite everything that he is doing in terms of financials/asking to see his dd more and getting flatly refused (his ex won't even let him call his dd in the week) she is getting increasingly hard to deal with
she is not working and has no way of paying the mortgage on their family home in which she still lives. (he pays for half of the mortgage on top of the child maintenance which he already pays). she has a degree and is capable of earning a good salary but she maintains that she will should not have to work or change her lifestyle because he had an affair. She wants to stay a full time mum for their dd and for him to support them fully.
She has now got to the point where she is constantly phoning and asking for more money, saying that she can't pay bills, can't afford to get the heating fixed etc.
Legally I do not know where he stands. he is paying well over and above what he is required to but his ex thinks it is not enough and his dd is suffering, clothes too small etc.
is there anything that he can do?
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rockhardplaceme · 09/01/2012 17:34
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