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Will partner ever have a chance of seeing his DD again?

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Ihatecbeebies · 04/01/2012 17:39

DP has a 5 year old daughter with Rett syndrome, a very severe disability, he lived with her and the mother for the first 2 and a half years of their life but the mother didn't put him on the birth certificate and despite him always asking she never 'got around to it'.

After the split she moved out and they got their own place together, she got a new partner and is now engaged. DP was allowed his dd to stay with him a couple of nights a week, then his ex (despite dp disputing) changed it to just take her out twice a week, then take her out once a week, then come visit her at her home for an hour once a week, then on her 4th birthday (just after she was newly engaged) that was the last time he seen her, ex blocked him from her phone and refused any contact.

There is no good reason for her doing any of this, DP was a great father to her (I've known him for years and so have seen this for myself), and his ex would always comment on how great a dad he was and how amazing he was with her etc, so there is no issue of mistreatment, neglect or anything.

We live in Scotland, he isn't on the birth certificate, she refuses any kind of contact, DD is severely disabled so cannot ask to see her dad as she wont ever talk or comprehend something like that, he's seen a lawyer who said there wasn't much he could do, he could ask to be put on the bcert but due to DD's severe disability the mother can claim that it is too stressful to introduce him back into her life and he wouldn't be able to be put on the bcert or have contact, he is desperate to see her again, is there anything that can be done?

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RedHelenB · 04/01/2012 18:26

The law must be different in Scotland then. I would think it worth getting a second opinion from a different lawyer. Does he pay maintenance as surely that would show he's the child's father? I would contact his MP as well if you haven't done so.
Don't give up, where there's a will there's a way. I would have thought the mother would be glad of a break to spend time with her fiance.

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Ihatecbeebies · 04/01/2012 18:34

No he was a student until May this year so was unable to pay maintenance and now there is no CSA case open and nowhere for him to send money to iyswim, although he'd be willing to pay, I think she'd rather not contact CSA because then that would show that he is the father. Her fiance is also DP's (now ex) best friend since they were both 5 so that is a contributing factor I think in her not wanting DP around.

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