Hi,
If you don't mind could you read this brief case and tell me your opinions on the matter
Thanks
During my pregnancy my ex partner was verbally abusive and kept making threats about court actions. I decided to leave him and had limited contact for the duration of my pregnancy. For my unborn child sake i invited him to the birth and at the time thought it may change our realtionship for the best.
I had a emergancy c-section and one weekend refused to go to my ex Partner parents house he then got very abusive.His mum suggested that he should bring the baby up himself if i cannot make it.So he demanded that i let him take the 12 day old baby himself which i obviously disagreed on ,ever since that day he has been making threats about taking court action the following week i decided to not enter him on the birth cert as during the argument he said he was going to try and get full custordy and all sort of horrible threats.
He went to a solicitor and arrange an agreement that he would have the child 3 days a week which i decline and also pr.
He paid exactly 2 weeks worth of child maintenance which was alot less then he should of been paying and during the duration of paying he made continuous threats to withdrawn payment if i didn't accept the agreement or wouldn't let him take the child out on his own .
I offered him access however he declined, first he said because he doesn't want me present then the following week he would only visit if he could go back to mine etc which i refused obviously as i don't want him knowing where i live .
Everytime i tried to make an arrangment it seem there was always an excuse in place. At this point i got sick of playing reasonsible and changed all my contact details so he couldn't no longer contact me.As i believe he was just trying set me up to say something out of anger to use against me in the courts
He hasn't made any effort to see his child, although he does know where my parents live he hasn't sent any presents or money for the child.
On one occasion he came to my parents house to drop off a cot, which i left at his house during the pregnancy.During one of his abusive text, he told me how this cot was actually at his parents house ready for overnight stays and refused i could have it .
Anyway weeks later he drop off the cot and i answer the door with my daughter in my arms, i was really shocked at the time and was speechless as i wasn't expecting him. Anyways he never ask after the child or took any interest in her he just walk off .
Other general information
Him and his mother was calling me a bad mum because my baby suffered from colic .
He suffered domestic abuse when he was younger his dad attended anger managment classes
His mother told me stories about biting children at bday parties which obviously was one of the very reasons ,i don't trust my child being around him or his family
They had an injuction out for threatening behaviour .
My close friends have agreed on giving me statements about his character all most of which are professional.
Based on the information given could anyone please tell me where i stand ?if taken to court
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AMummyFromNotts · 02/01/2012 01:50
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