DH left his ex partner in early 2008, they have a 6 year old son. DH left due to the constant arguments taking place and his XP stopped him having contact with his DS, even reporting to the police incidents of Domestic Violence (all false) to help her case. It has been back and forth through solicitors/family courts ever since.
DH was awarded supervised contact in a contact centre in June 2008 which went really well, dispite him not having any contact with his DS for five months. However his XP insisted that this contact was making her son aggressive and he was soiling excessively, so yet again this contact was stopped.
It took another 18 months for my DH to get the courts to agree to anymore contact, due to reports required from CAFCASS, we managed to get unsupervised contact eventually every saturday for six hours (over a period of 8 weeks). The last week we had him (march this year) we took him to a children's theme park where we had a lovely day, DHs parents came with us as well. However the next week when we went to pick him up, XP didn't show and we learnt that she has accused my DH of kicking, punching and swearing at his DS supposedly in the middle of this theme park!
Contact was yet again stopped, whilst police, social services and CAFCASS became involved, interestingly we have never been contacted by the police or social services despite us and DHs parents being witnesses to prove this allegation is all lies. CAFCASS have worked with DS who keeps saying that DH "kicked punched and sweared at me" which is obviously what XP has been telling him to say, CAFCASS have even reported that DS appears to be "chanting" this statement.
Other agencies who have been involved include CAMHS ( Child/Adolescent Mental Health Services) who have done another report, they say DS doesn't appear to be missing his father ( well he's not going to is he, he's only seen him 12 times in the last four years, and XP is not explaining to DS who my DH actually is!)
The whole thing seems totally biased to her making up lies and I can't believe how she has fooled so many so called professionals who can't see what she is doing. I don't know how her solicitor sleeps at night tbh (he's even told ours that he doesn't believe her but he has to represent her!) In my opinion she is mentally abusing her son, I have written to social services to voice my concerns but they haven't even acknowledged my letter.
The best thing is that HER last XP has come forward to our solicitor to do a statement in our favour to confirm she is influencing DS to say things when officials come to do a report AND that she has a drink problem and often drink drives with DS in the car.
So far we have spent £15000 trying to get something sorted. She gets Legal Aid so has paid nothing. We are back in county court in January, so I'm just wondering if anyone on here has any experience of this mentality, what the outcome was, and although it pains me to say it, whether it's even worth carrying on as no one seems to be taking us seriously, and she'll just continue to keep making things up.
I really, really, really can't believe how none of the agencies involved can see what she's doing. It's quite easy to see how Baby P got overlooked......
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Need family law advice re DHs ex lying to prevent him having contact with his son, very long, sorry....
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Bignorkz · 18/12/2011 10:55
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