I hope this all makes sense, it is a very long story spanning several years, but if I write it mainly as bullet points, it's not because I am being lazy, I'm just trying to make as much sense as possible. So here goes.....
DH and his ex split, she keeps the two children aged then 6m and 4.
6 months later DH and I get together.
6months later, their house she had been living in gets sold.
She tells DH she is taking the children to live abroad.
DH agrees to a 3 way split of the equity in the house, £44k for her, £44k for him and £44k for the continued maintenance of the children (ie, they agreed that she takes this rather than a monthly sum).
She spends this money on a flat in another country.
Once abroad, she proceeds to direct a solicitor to try and get a further £400 per month for the children.
We do not have this kind of money but are advised to offer a smaller, token amount of £40 which we do.
She says she no longer wishes to keep the children and can DH come and get them.
DH collects the children. They have lived with us ever since.
We ask her for some of the money back.
She refuses.
We ask for small token amounts.
She refuses.
We had a big case where we took her to court.
She by then had another baby and the court could not make her sell her flat to provide for the children.
Anyway, 6 years later, we have not had a penny from her for the upkeep of the children. She rarely speaks to them, never sends birthday/christmas presents etc. We are broke beyond belief.
I could go on for pages about the wickedness she has shown towards the children and the fact she does not give a damn about them at all, but that would take all day adn isn't relevant to the legalities of the situation. I have brought them up as my own for 6 years and DH works every hour to keep a roof over our head. We lost our house last year and DH is frantic with money worries.
I guess my question is: Is there anything whatsoever that says a parent in another European country must contribute financially to their children in the UK? Because as far as I can see, we're stuffed!
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effingwotsits · 15/11/2011 15:19
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