Your collective wisdom is needed, advice please!!

[greenbeanie]

DH and I are having a bit of a dilemma at the moment and your advice and any thoughts would be gratefully received. We have decided to go for dc3, we have 2 ds aged 7 and 3. I am currently in a job that I am not enjoying but the pay is ok. We have been saving for the past year so that I can do a 3 year course and retrain. The problem is that although it is something that I want to do it would mean being away for 26 weekends out of the year for 3 years. Also the extra work to do out of university etc.

Our dilemma is do we have a dc3 now and delay the course or even forget about it completely and use the money to do stuff around the house (we are currently renovating a house so the money would be very useful), or start the course and have a year out in the middle to have dc3. We don't want to leave it for much longer than a year due to the age gap with other children and also dh's age, he is 10 years older than me. What do you think??

[iwontbite]

i would have it and delay the course

[Zola78]

What do you want more? It's a hard question but that's ultimately your answer. Whatever you decided to do you'll need to re - organise your family and make no mistake it will be hard work but if it's what you want it's always worthwhile.

[greenbeanie]

Thank you for your replies. Zola that is the problem really I don't know what I want more. I know that only I can make that decision but everytime I think OK I've decided and will go for the course or the baby 1st I immediately change my mind . It's like dh said I want them both so much, that's why it's so hard.

[Zola78]

I was in the same dilemma before I had ds3. I had started my PGCE but still wanted another baby. Everyone said do the course first then have another child afterwards so I did. But I knew deep down that once I'd revived my career I'm not sure I would want to stop again so I stopped the course. I've decided that I'm going to do the family thing now and then once the youngest is at school go back into it. I hope I do anyway.
I hope this helps.