Long so feel free to ignore. I didn't know if I should put it in relationships or here.
I shouldn't really care about what my dad and stepmonster think. They are 3500 miles away in another country. I am in the UK happy with DH and our 3 gorgeous kids. We wanted a 4th and can afford it so we are doing it. We both work in a family friendly environment that gives great hours and we are managing very well. Fuck the USA I ain't going back there.
I am getting to the stage where I am really going to have to tell my vitamin obsessed clean freak baby boomer parents that we are again adding to the family. When I told them about DC 1, 2, and 3, I got nothing but stoney silence for awhile. They can't understand why anyone would have more than one or two dc. They think we should take holidays eat out all the time like the two of them.
My dad has said that we are crazy for having a large family and I can tell he really looks down on it. All my parents obsess about is getting us to move back to their part of the world and they will just see baby number 4 as another cog in the wheel.
I don't really want to relocate back there now and they just can't deal with having us so far away. Guilt guilt guilt. I get shit for having 3 kids and guilt because we can't fly over there as much so they can see the kids. I get guilt trips if they have to pay out to visit here.
The thing is that DH, kids and I are happy right were we are and want another baby so why should we make a transatlantic move and not have a child just to please them? My dad saw my third dc as "another plane ticket to buy". My stepmum asks how we can handle "the noise and mess". Then they act like we are criminals because we keep the kids so far away.
My sister lives down the road from them and has 2 beautiful young daughters and a nice DH. When she brings the kids around my stepmonster follow them around the house with a broom and dustpan shooting my dad dirty looks which gets him all tense. Their comment to my sister was "we wanted so much more for you and Vian than to be baby machines".
But they piss and moan that we won't sell our house and give up our good jobs and move over there so they can be near the kids. I feel bad leaving my dear sis to deal with them alone.
I know I should just forget about them but it really bothers me. We held back on going for baby number 4 because I was afraid of what they would think/say. I don't know why they stress me out so much. I am 30 and live in another country FFS.
Give me some really good comebacks to use when I announce that we are having another dc!
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About to tell my parents that DH and I are having number 4. They are going to Freak.
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Vian · 02/09/2008 13:20
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